Actually read it before just voting assuming it's about partners having children.

A woman and man conceive a child, then separate.
The woman's best friend, who has a relationship with another woman,
agrees to "parent with" the now single mom, they aren't in a relationship (the dad is still active in his/her life)
They don't live together or anything- but the child baby/toddler calls them both "mom".

What're your thoughts on this?

Is it harmless to the child?
Is it weird but you can't see it having any negative effects?
Is it an immature thing to do when eventually the two friend's lives could go separate directions and now all of a sudden "mom" is gone?

I'm just curious.
And no, this isn't my own, personal situation.

Takes a village to raise a child.

I don't think it's weird at all; though the child may at one point and will probally question out of curiosity. No, I don't think it's weird/harmful at all.

Quoting bbbt:" Takes a village to raise a child. "

Well, sure, but i don't think that means you call all the women in the village, "mom".


I think i'd rather have my child lose a good friend if she was to move away or something was to happen, than to lose their "mom".

Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:" I don't think it's weird at all; though the child may at one point and will probally question out of curiosity. No, I don't think it's weird/harmful at all."

Would it be weird if the dad had a female best friend that he was letting the child call "mom" just because they were good friends?

I thinks it's super weird and kind of sucks for the kid to have three "parents", none of them living together and one not even related. I can't even begin to imagine how upset the child would be if there was a fight and mom number two stopped comimg around.

Yeah its kinda weird. its different if they are dating.

I don't understand using the word "Mom." I think it says something about their relationship disfunction that they told a young child to use a title typically reserved for people in a romantic relationship/family unit.

In the same respect I wouldn't want my child to call someone "Daddy" if we were only dating and not married or engaged.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" I thinks it's super weird and kind of sucks for the kid to have three "parents", none of them living ... [snip!] ... I can't even begin to imagine how upset the child would be if there was a fight and mom number two stopped comimg around."

or not even a fight- like, just life moving on- moving away, etc etc- so many things that could take that person away.

the specific people in this situation too are in their early 20s, so i mean- who knows what's in the cards.

i think it's an immature act trying to take that extra step from being "auntie/friend" to more.

and like, imagine if dad decided to do the same- female best friend, having the kiddo call her 'mom' .. i bet the other "moms" wouldn't be too pleased.

Quoting KNZ.:" Would it be weird if the dad had a female best friend that he was letting the child call "mom" just because they were good friends? "

Okay totally mis-read. I thought the two ladies were dating. Yeah I can see it as weird. I guess I wouldn't if they were dating.

Quoting C's Mommy +1:" Yeah its kinda weird. its different if they are dating."

the one isn't even a lesbian/bisexual. and the other is in a committed relationship. but i agree.

Quoting Honey&E:" I don't understand using the word "Mom." I think it says something about their relationship disfunction ... [snip!] ... In the same respect I wouldn't want my child to call someone "Daddy" if we were only dating and not married or engaged. "

and to make it exactly like this, they'd be calling someone daddy who was just a friend. even weirder.

Quoting KNZ.:" Well, sure, but i don't think that means you call all the women in the village, "mom". I think i'd ... [snip!] ... i'd rather have my child lose a good friend if she was to move away or something was to happen, than to lose their "mom". "

Yeah...I have "aunts" who are just my mom's best friends, and that pretty much covers it. They didn't help raise me, but even if they had I can't imagine calling them Mom.
That's a lot of parents. I don't think it would necessarily be a bad thing, but it could cause some confusion. Then again, there are all different kinds of families and if the kid's getting what it needs out of life, lots of love and support, then there's no problem.
It's just that parenting is a massive commitment, so names like Mom and Dad shouldn't just be thrown around to the first people they stick to, and that new Mom or Dad should acquire legal parenting rights to the kid.

Well what if they just called her mom but knew she was really just a good friend of whoever's mom & was like a 2nd mom? but like not in a sense that she was a real parent to them..kind of just like a title because she was a close friend? I mean I called my best friend's mothers my 2nd moms lol...never had any harm from it...they loved me like their own kid's too so that is why they were like my 2nd moms/

Quoting KNZ.:" Actually read it before just voting assuming it's about partners having children. A woman and man conceive ... [snip!] ... separate directions and now all of a sudden "mom" is gone? I'm just curious. And no, this isn't my own, personal situation."

I'm assuming that "the other mom" takes an active role on the upbringing of said child if the kid is considering that person as a parent.

Harmful? I guess you're asking if it's harmful in a psychological way. I wouldn't think so. Why would it?

Weird? not at all. I think this other woman is very active with the kid.

And if this person decided to leave one day, of course it would affect the child if their relationship is as strong that the child calls her "mom".

As it would have the same effect whenever a child stops seeing somebody who is of big importance for the kid.