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Umm that's ' a grandmother's wrong'! I've had to tell my family no and listen to em say I'm depriving her and all this crap, it sucks but you just gotta tell them that that is where you draw the line.

My mom wants to watch LO when I go back to work instead of me putting her in daycare with a women I really trust. She knows the reason I want LO in daycare as opposed to her watching LO is because of situations like this. I have already talk to the daycare provider and she knows how I feel about someone giving LO something I don't approve of. I trust the daycare provider more than my own mother.

Quoting I love Kenzi:" like im kinda pissed for your kid that you didnt stop her"

 

You need to put your kid's health before your fear of standing up to your mother. This incident is not a big deal but imagine what she'd give the baby when you're not around.

Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" She was holding LO when she did ... [snip!] ... long after this. "</blockquote> So you watched your newborn suck down pure artificially flavored sugar for HOW LONG?!"

It wasn't inside her mouth. She was just licking it. Yes I mean licking. The sucker never went into her mouth at any point. But it was still wrong.

Tell her to give your child back to you and leave. My MIL wanted to give my 6 week old water, peanut brittle, and mashed potatoes. I laughed in her face and told her no. And that if she wouldn't respect my decision she wouldn't see my son. She caught on and stopped telling me what to give him. We breast fed and even if we hadn't i would've handle the water thing the same way as I did.

Quoting Supafly★:"   You need to put your kid's health before your fear of standing up to your mother. This incident is not a big deal but imagine what she'd give the baby when you're not around. "

Which is way I NEVER leave LO with her unsupervised. I did leave LO there the other day but made SO stay with her to make sure my mother didn't give her something. My mom has never been alone with LO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" It wasn't inside her mouth. She was just licking it. Yes I mean licking. The sucker never went into her mouth at any point. But it was still wrong."</blockquote>




Does it matter? When I lick a sucker it still gets to my stomach. You came on here to ask what you should have done and we all tell you, and you defend you not taking it away. Why'd you even ask?

Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" It wasn't inside her mouth. She ... [snip!] ... came on here to ask what you should have done and we all tell you, and you defend you not taking it away. Why'd you even ask?"

I didn't realize after only 4 short weeks I am already a failure as a mother. Thanks for the support. I am not trying to defend my mother, she was in the wrong. But making me feel like a horrible mother is not helpful in this situation.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" My mom wants to watch LO when I go back to work instead of me putting her in daycare with a women I really ... [snip!] ... knows how I feel about someone giving LO something I don't approve of. I trust the daycare provider more than my own mother. "

I feel the same way with my grandmother.

I love her to death, but she is getting old (not like she is accepting that) and she is getting VERY forgetful of things.

I just told her I wanted LO to have other kid interaction, since he is the only child. She understood.

If not, she will get over it quick.

I remember feeling so bad from yelling at my mother to back the hell up and stop being a control freak. She wouldnt talk to me for the while night, but got over it the next day.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" Which is way I NEVER leave LO with her unsupervised. I did leave LO there the other day but made SO stay ... [snip!] ... the other day but made SO stay with her to make sure my mother didn't give her something. My mom has never been alone with LO. "

Either way, you need to stand up to her instead of just watching her go against your wishes. How else will she know it's not okay? She obviously lacks common sense.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" I didn't realize after only 4 short weeks I am already a failure as a mother. Thanks for the support. ... [snip!] ... trying to defend my mother, she was in the wrong. But making me feel like a horrible mother is not helpful in this situation. "

Just be ready for next time. It will keep going... And going and going...

My MIL still does it... She's never babysat.

Quoting I love Kenzi:" like im kinda pissed for your kid that you didnt stop her"

This and V that down there

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:</b>" I didn't realize after only 4 short weeks I am already a failure as a mother. Thanks for the support. ... [snip!] ... trying to defend my mother, she was in the wrong. But making me feel like a horrible mother is not helpful in this situation. "</blockquote>




Did I say you were a bad mom?? Not at all. Just that on this situation you should have done differently. We all make mistakes as moms!!!
Just learn from this because she will keep trying to feed your kid smurf.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" I didn't realize after only 4 short weeks I am already a failure as a mother. Thanks for the support. ... [snip!] ... trying to defend my mother, she was in the wrong. But making me feel like a horrible mother is not helpful in this situation. "

No one is saying you're a bad mother - you're being dramatic. However, watching your 4 week old ingest pure sugar while doing nothing but complaining about it AFTER the fact is a parenting fail. you both did the wrong thing.