Should I tell?

I came into a situation yesterday that has really knocked me out of sorts. If it was a normal dealing, I'd tell the person what I had heard, but it's more complicated than usual. Names and things changed.

Marvin and Shelia have been married for 17 years. They have a daughter, Paisley, that's 9. Yesterday, Shelia had their son, Jeremy. Now, they're all members of what we're going to call a club. Shelia's best friend Rachel is also in the club.

More than a year ago, Shelia came and asked me a serious question. Had I heard or knew anything that Marvin was cheating on her. Honestly, I hadn't heard or suspected anything. I don't really have much to do with them to see suspicious stuff. I do go hang out with everyone (like about 5 to 10 adults with their kids) every other weekend if I feel up to it. Mostly to get some adult interaction and let LO play with the other kids.

There is one person, Jamie, that has been trying to become a member of the club and they finally let her put a application in. Problem is, she wouldn't get voted into it because of her reputation. She's the type that every day you see a face book post that she "loves" this guy or that guy. Usually it's 2 different guy every day. She swears that she's only been with 4 guys in her whole life but I've paid attention more than she thinks. I've counted from her talks and posts that she's had at least 15. Not the issue though. Her credibility is very low.

Yesterday, while I'm waiting for a update on Shelia having Jeremy, Jamie tells me something that I'm sworn to not repeat. Dennis, another member had told her that Marvin and Rachel have told him stories on how they're screwing each other behind Shelia's back and it's been going on years.

Now, here's the twist. Jamie didn't get in the club and could be saying this to try and cause problems within the club. Other issue is I'm related to Shelia and Jamie knows that I talk to her a lot. However, the fact Shelia brought this cheating deal up to me a long time ago, makes me pause. But then on the other hand, I have the worry that it might not be true and Jamie's trying to cause a lot of problems using me to tell Shelia.

She just had a baby, so obviously I'm not going to tell her right now. But should I ever tell it? I mean I have NO proof. I don't really want it to come out later that they were screwing around and I knew but didn't say anything. I know Shelia's going to rip Marvin's head off if it's true.

I really feel that there's truth to it but no way of proving it. Plus the timing is utterly horrid.

Are they Swingers? Sounds like it.


Anyways, I would stay out of it, really. It sounds like a sticky situation and those types of situations are easily turned on the messenger.

Wtf kinda club is that? And no I wouldn't say a damn thing.

I wouldn't say anything. No use in causing drama if you have zero proof other than hearsay.

If you had some kind of proof, that would be different and I would encourage you to tell Shiela.

Sounds like a swingers club lol

And I wouldn't say anything, sounds like something said out of spite.

Ugh thats a tough spot. I'm sorry you're put in that position   I'd keep it to myself and see if anything else comes up. Don't wanna ruin a marriage if this girls just starting drama.

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" Sounds like a swingers club lol And I wouldn't say anything, sounds like something said out of spite."

So if its a swingers club isn't Rachel allowed to have sex with sheila's husband?

Or is it just consented relations when all parties agree?

I'm not trying to be a douche, just trying to understand.

Quoting MILF !!:" So if its a swingers club isn't Rachel allowed to have sex with sheila's husband? Or is it just consented ... [snip!] ... husband? Or is it just consented relations when all parties agree? I'm not trying to be a douche, just trying to understand. "

That's why they have the "club". You're allowed to be with approved members only.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MILF !!:</b>" So if its a swingers club isn't Rachel allowed to have sex with sheila's husband? Or is it just consented ... [snip!] ... husband? Or is it just consented relations when all parties agree? I'm not trying to be a douche, just trying to understand. "</blockquote>




From my understanding you still need permission. Like hey on Saturday I'm getting with Rachel.

Stay out of it. The girl could be lying.

I called it a club because I don't want this post to be getting out. It's not a strip club, swingers club or anything in that nature.

Don't quote this at all I will be deleting in a while. It is a volunteer fire department that they are members of and that's what the application was for.

my husband has always told me that when a couple are having issues in their relationship then thats their issues and we need to stay out of it and not cause more drama. So I would just leave it alone and tell the girl that I didn't want to hear about it.

So you guys have decided not to let this woman join the volunteer fire department you guys are at solely based on the number of men she has had sex with? and you have even been so pathetic to go through her facebook posts about what men she has been talking about in order to add up the numbers? ..... I say I "love" my friends all the time or I "had a great time out with them" wether or not they are male or female and that means nothing more other than I enjoyed hanging out.... Yet you're making assumptions that because of these statements she has smurfed every guy she has mentioned?

I don't know who is cheating with who or if any cheating is happening at all but what I do know is you all sound like a bunch of stuck up pathetic judgemental smurfs  

I don't need to go through her posts when they show up left and right on my page and I didn't realize that I would need to verbatim her posts that she states that she misses the sweet love they made. So sorry I didn't share that with you. I'm only saying that her word is unreliable.

I did not have anything to do with her application acceptance because I am not a member. I'm only stating that the way it looks is that she is pissed off she didn't get accepted and was trying to use me to cause problems among the actual members.

<blockquote><b>Quoting xTJ:</b>" So you guys have decided not to let this woman join the volunteer fire department you guys are at solely ... [snip!] ... any cheating is happening at all but what I do know is you all sound like a bunch of stuck up pathetic judgemental smurfs  "</blockquote>




I was kind of confused on that too... I don't think your "reputation" has anything to do with you being able to volunteer anywhere... you can also make it to where you don't have to see anything she posts or delete her