militray /army wives

hey im an army wife and during my husband second deployment i was pregnant an lost my daughter when she was born. she was with us for 3 days and my husband didnt get to meet her b/c he was deployed and they didnt bring him home in time.. my husband is deployed now for the 3 time and i was wondering has any one had a tragic event happen while they're husband was deployed and have them deployed again? i mean i thought the army would understand this was very hurtful for us and i thought maybe they wouldn't deploy him knowing this can bring lots of memories of when i was pregnant and all....since i have PTSD..
sorry if i dont make any senses to you... but i was wondering was if a tragic event occurred like this ..do they deploy these soldiers again or are we the only ones out there?

I personally have not had anything tragic happen while my husband was away, I have friends that have however. Their husbands still deploy because it's by the needs of the military.

They still deploy men that have watched their best friends die. The army is cold and doesn't care about state of mind much.

They always have to deploy again.

First deployment my husband lost his dad
Second deployment we lost a pregnancy and I almost died needling emergency surgery because the pregnancy was undetected ectopic
Third deployment we were ok
Fourth my son was diagnosed with autism
Fifth is our current, we've lost 2 grandparents and hopefully nothing else will happen.


I understand none of that could even measure what you've been through and I'm so sorry for your loss. The military is all about the mission being completed.

Aww, I'm so sorry you had to go through this, especially alone  




Just to note, I'm not an Army Wife.


But, they will be deployed again, yes. They will give your Husband and Family time to make the arrangements they need to and some time to grieve the loss. When it's all said and done though, he is going to be deployed again, whether it be now or next year, etc.

Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" They always have to deploy again. First deployment my husband lost his dad Second deployment we lost ... [snip!] ... even measure what you've been through and I'm so sorry for your loss. The military is all about the mission being completed."

    
My hubby talks about missions in his sleep

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].™:</b>"      My hubby talks about missions in his sleep"</blockquote>


Yep, most want to go back too. They don't want their guys to go without them.

Unless they physically can not handle a deployment they will have to keep deploying. It sucks but that's the way the military is.

Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].™:</b>"      My hubby talks about ... [snip!] ... about missions in his sleep"</blockquote> Yep, most want to go back too. They don't want their guys to go without them."

DH tried to go again, but he can't
*whew*

I'm sorry for your loss. I never experience a loss and DH was only gone for training for a month during our whole marriage. But the army gives you a certain amount of days to deal with the loss (DH lost both grandparents while in the army) to attend/plan the funeral but after that everything goes back to normal including deployment. It sucks but that's how it works.

Quoting kitermom:" They still deploy men that have watched their best friends die. The army is cold and doesn't care about state of mind much."

that's horrible ..  its weird they want them to do their job right but they send soldiers that have gone though these tragic events ...Im surprised they get they're job done..

i cant wait for them all to come back home...