Bridal shower etiquette?

I'm thinking about throwing my own due to circumstances in my previous post.
I'm looking at a place that wil do everything for me I just give them a guest list number and pay.
Previously.. When someone was planning it for me I was asked for my list and told every woman I invite to the wedding should be invited to the shower.. Is that true?
If I invite 20 reserve the space for 20 and only 14 come I'm still paying for 20.. So I'd like to chop my list a bit for people I know won't come

! No, proper etiquette is that anyone invited to the shower is already invited to the wedding. Not the other way around. :-) And if people are PC, they bring a gift to both shower and wedding (which I didn't know when I let people throw me three showers!). If your goal is not gifts, make it a tea party or something instead of a shower. :-)

Good luck on throwing it yourself. I didn't see your prior circumstances post(s).

<blockquote><b>Quoting suzyq463:</b>" ! No, proper etiquette is that anyone invited to the shower is already invited to the wedding. Not the ... [snip!] ... party or something instead of a shower. :-) Good luck on throwing it yourself. I didn't see your prior circumstances post(s). "</blockquote>


Thank you!
It is a tea party   the place is called pinkadilly it's an actual tea party restaurant it's so cute!  

You only invite your closest family and friends to the shower. Otherwise it would be a HUGE shower.