Mutual parenting plan

A little background...my daughter is 3 years old. Her dad has always been a "show up & see her when I feel like, or its convenient" type of dad. So basically like once a month he will pick her up for an over night visit. I've been urging him to make a schedule with more consistancy, for a really long time. I want to get something regular & consistant going..like every other weekend, or a few days each week...something better than once a month!
I'd like to see other examples of schedules shared between you & your BD. What is your schedule or parenting plan whether it is court ordered or just a mutual agreement? Thanks  

My BD sees our LO on Sunday afternoon( earlier if I can get a hold of him) -Tuesday evening. Nothing is court ordered. I don't get child support and BD doesnt help me financially at all! It sucks because I feel I do too much and he sees our son whenever its conveinant for his schedule. He works late but also goes out to bars/clubs after so he complains about not seeing our son enough but Sundays I can't reach him before 2pm

Quoting Fiona Gallagher ♡:" My BD sees our LO on Sunday afternoon( earlier if I can get a hold of him) -Tuesday evening. Nothing ... [snip!] ... but also goes out to bars/clubs after so he complains about not seeing our son enough but Sundays I can't reach him before 2pm"

That soiunds just like my daughter's dad. He has all the time & money to go out to the bars and drink, but no money for child support or any money for our daughter. Its usually a sunday or monday I can get him to take her...and it sucks because she loves spending time with him. At least he works, my daughter's dad doesnt even work, he works under the table so he doesnt have to pay child support.

My son's dad & I actually went to court for visitation, but while in the court room we were able to agree on what we wanted to do. Which is, he gets our son every other weekend. We do holidays & birthdays together (for our son's sake). He pays his child support now, so sometimes he'll ask me for an extra day & i'll give it to him. I've never had problems with him not showing up to get our son or anything like that. & Whenever I have an emergency and need someone to watch our son, he is more than happy to do so. If there isn't a court order, I wouldn't make the effort to force him to spend time with her. He'll regret that time he lost watching her grow up once he grows up himself. My son's dad was the exact same way until he got another chick pregnant. Then he realized that his life couldn't be about fun & games anymore. He got a job, is almost completely caught up on his child support, and makes a much better effort to be in our son's life & do what he needs to do for his kids. He used to never call to check on him, or even care when I had to take him to the doctor while he was sick. But now he calls or texts at least once a day.

My BD works but it is also under the table. He's a tattoo artist. Claims that he never has money because of people cancelling appointments etc
He doesn't have money for his son but yet he has $ to go out to bars/clubs take girls out. It's frustrating because my son adores his father and loves spending time with him, we calk to say goodnight when LO is with me... It's stressful because I feel I do the majority of the responsibility of being a parent and bd gets to be the fun dad. Like other poster said I can always ask bd to take our LO if there was an emergency and my parents couldn't help. We try to do holidays together ad well. But Everyone tells me to put him in child support!! But his family is great and I want to mKe things as peaceful and amicable as possible because I'm going to deal with bd forever.