Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" ... [snip!] ... how much that day means to them. It isn't the wedding, it is the start of the rest of their lives as one. Their marriage."
I agree, marriage is an important institution. It is more important to some, but IMO it is an important institution to families and society in general. DH & I have what is referred to as a Covenant Marriage, which is only available in certain states. We had a beautiful ceremony and reception at the Hotel Del in California (where legal Covenant Marriage's aren't offered), and converted it into a Covenant Marriage in AZ, our home state. Basically, we are dedicated to working through anything, and we were required to sign an affidavit stating that we understood that we had to attend 2 years of counseling if we ever decided to divorce. We are committed to staying married for the rest of our lives, regardless of what a "piece of paper" states (as so many anti-marriage women like to call it).
Our Marriage simply reinforces our beliefs that we are committed forever. We are in it for life and I am proud to say that, and to be his wife, not just his girlfriend. Our marriage is not an expensive break-up, it's a promise - legally and intimately.
Marriage is also about sacrifice and compatibility. DH & I wouldn't be as happy if one of us didn't want to be married. It's important to many people, and for good reason. OP is completely justified in her feelings. I hope her and her SO are able to work it out but if not, she's entitled to want a man who wants to commit to her for the rest of their lives.