re: Death

Oh wow, I couldn't imagine. This breaks my heart. I'm so sorry.

i'm sorry   i've lost friends in car accidents, but nothing like a SO   PM me if you need an ear

I just wanted to check back and see how everything is going with you!! *HUGS*

I lost my dh in a car accident not too long ago... for the first month or two i was in shock.. wasn't mad, wasn't sad... was confused... then i got to the point i was angry, a lot.. everything made me sad, everything made me mad... after i got to the point in grieving where i was at peace with it knowing he'd be with our son in heaven.. I have a child with dh, so it was pretty rough.. but honestly he's so young he doesn't notice that he hasn't been around... my advice is don't push down the feelings.. let them out, talk about it to anyone.. it truly helps..

everyone grieves differently... i am soooo sorry to hear about your loss   i lost my mother the year before my first born.. and the year after my big brother passed... each death hit me harder and harder... i would just bust out crying whenever and wherever i needed... and it really does help, at least with me... every chance i get to share some of my pain... maybe we never really get over our loved ones leaving us... but we can move past it and keep them close to us by remembering them... i hope things get easier for you, i cant imagine your pain  

Ive been so out of it i checked this, meant to reply and then forgot. Im doing" better" i would say. Still have some boughts of crying. I spent the weekend over there. Talked with his dad. We had a cookout today, a few of dustins friends came over. Ive started writing a" letter" more of a journal. And thats helping and its helping i can just put out things whether to someone on here or actually talk to someone irl. IFeeling a little numb i would say. I get to see my son tomorrow, since i wasnt in the right mind set the past week. I think that will help to. Still doesnt" feel" real. And this week has flown by. (Not even a full week yet). But you know what i mean lol. Been losing" track" of time a bit.

Oh my.. I'm so sorry for your loss.. Prayers your way.

I'm so sorry.


* hugs*

Quoting ^.^ Chippermunkk:" Ive been so out of it i checked this, meant to reply and then forgot. Im doing" better" i would say. ... [snip!] ... real. And this week has flown by. (Not even a full week yet). But you know what i mean lol. Been losing" track" of time a bit."

Honestly it won't feel real for a while... sometimes i still think i'll get a call or a email that it's a joke.. but no such luck.. even with the obituaries, ect. it still bothers me to be called a widow... a widow at 23..people cry when i meet them...they always ask me about it... honestly, that's the thing you're going to have to be prepared for... the story...how'd it happen, how are you, how long has it been..that sort of thing.. i still get teary eyed & sometimes cry when people ask about my dh car accident.. most the time i just knod away the tears & give them a weak smile because i don't ALWAYS want to talk about it.. my dh & sons angelversary are three days & three years apart..so i grieve for them both...

It does get a little easier though OP, take it one day at a time.. i find that even though it hurts, i still 'talk' to him...sometimes write letters...look at our pictures together..

just take it easy & love on your son.. it makes it a whole lot better.. i started letting my son sleep in the bed with me..its comforting to have him close.

*hugs*