Quoting ~Manda Panda +3 ~:" We have three kids. But a bedtime routine is CRUCIAL. Mine are in bed by 8pm. That gives us plenty of ... [snip!] ... a few We just find ways! Plus if you make it more spontaneous that could help his issues so he doesn't feel stressed."
We have a strict bedtime for our kids at 8 as well but our 4 year old is a serious night owl... I have tried everything and he will sometimes stay up until 1-2am and still get up at 6 and be fine and dandy. It blows my mind how he does it. If we ever do lock ourselves in the room on the weekend we have fingers under the door and banging on the door which does not help the mood at all.
It is like our kids have radar and know whever we are tying to have mommy and daddy time!!!