TTC - finding the time?

So I was looking back at my chart from my last cycle and to my surprise I noticed we only BD once!!! (unless I forgot to chart some times haha) Now how the hell are we supposed to have a baby only doing it once a month. I need to find ways to get more sex into our relationship. We have only been married for 6 months and I feel like we are an old married couple. Half the time one of us falls asleep before the kids even do (we have a 4 year old who does not sleep at all or ever!!!). How do you guys find or make the time to have sex all the time. I see some of you say you do it once a day or even more and I just don't get how it is possible haha... Anyone have some ideas on how to spice it up a bit without going overboard so we want to do it more often. DH has a hard time performing when he knows we are "trying" becuase he feels pressured and he already had problems with ED. Help us out please!!


(sorry this is all over the place just looking for some ideas haha)

Honestly sometimes I would say to DH "Jerk off until you are almost gonna cum and then stick it in. I have A LOT of dishes to do."

It was sooooo unromantic!

We have three kids. But a bedtime routine is CRUCIAL. Mine are in bed by 8pm. That gives us plenty of time   We're every other day kinda folks haha.
Also before the baby we'd leave the boys to eat/watch tv and lock ourselves up for a few  
We just find ways!

Plus if you make it more spontaneous that could help his issues so he doesn't feel stressed.

Quoting That-Girl:" Honestly sometimes I would say to DH "Jerk off until you are almost gonna cum and then stick it in. I have A LOT of dishes to do." It was sooooo unromantic!"

I feel sometimes like that is the only way we would be able to accomplish the deed. But hey whatever works I guess haha

Quoting ~Manda Panda +3 ~:" We have three kids. But a bedtime routine is CRUCIAL. Mine are in bed by 8pm. That gives us plenty of ... [snip!] ... a few   We just find ways! Plus if you make it more spontaneous that could help his issues so he doesn't feel stressed."

We have a strict bedtime for our kids at 8 as well but our 4 year old is a serious night owl... I have tried everything and he will sometimes stay up until 1-2am and still get up at 6 and be fine and dandy. It blows my mind how he does it. If we ever do lock ourselves in the room on the weekend we have fingers under the door and banging on the door which does not help the mood at all.

It is like our kids have radar and know whever we are tying to have mommy and daddy time!!!

We fool around once the kids are in bed. Both kids go to bed around 8pm and we hang out until 11pm or so.

Quoting misanthrope:" We fool around once the kids are in bed. Both kids go to bed around 8pm and we hang out until 11pm or so."

haha I am lucky if one of us stays awake past 10 pm... maybe I will start setting an alarm at night for us to wake up and do the deed :-)... I never had to worry about this with my other kids becuase they were a one time deal... I had sex once and boom I was preg... things are not that easy anymore I guess haha

We let our kids watch some cartoons..and lock our selfs in the room for few