the most ridiculous argument

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Yesterday I was cooking pancakes and bacon for breakfast. I asked my husband to make some juice and get them cups while I was finishing up. He heaves a giant sigh and slowly gets up off the couch. And the argument starts off

Me "What was that about?
Him "You are always bossing me around."
Me "What? I asked you to make juice so..?"
Him "and I can't say no."
Me "Uhh what?"
Him "If I tell you no what would happen?"
Me "Well I wouldn't be happy. What is the problem here? I'm cooking breakfast and asked you to help me out. You weren't even doing anything."
Him "That's the point. I can't tell you no without you getting mad."
Me "Huh? You're mad because I asked you to make juice and you didn't want to?"
Him "No, I don't mind helping out."
Me "Then whats the problem? You don't want me to ask you because you can't say no but you don't mind doing it? If you don't like me asking why don't you just get up and help me?"
Him "Well I don't know what you want me to do, just nevermind. You don't understand."

And then he was pissy for the next hour before getting over whatever set him off. WTF? I'm bossing him around if I ask him to help because I'll get mad if he says no but he doesn't mind doing it. He's not going to just help me because he doesn't know what I need him to do and if I don't ask he figures I have it all under control. Damn straight I don't get it, I'm completely baffled. Anyone want to take a shot at helping me understand? We've been under a lot of stress lately and he has a big deployment coming up that might be extended from 7 months to a year. Maybe a control thing? IDK

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Cut him some slack. It sounds like he's just manstrating.  

Soungs like a typical man hahah

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" Cut him some slack. It sounds like he's just manstrating.  "</blockquote>




He's a dood...there is no understanding them.

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" Cut him some slack. It sounds like he's just manstrating.  "

Clearly but it was just so irritating, like I'm some sort of terrible bossy hag making his life miserable because I asked him to make juice. Really?

Quoting 3 little monsters:" Clearly but it was just so irritating, like I'm some sort of terrible bossy hag making his life miserable because I asked him to make juice. Really? "

Obviously it's stemming from more than you asking to make juice, lmfao. That's how guys are.

DH and I literally have this same argument. It makes so sense to me.
If you find the source, let me know.

Quoting *beck-i* {JAS08}:" Soungs like a typical man hahah"

He's never like that though, he's so level headed most of the time it's mind boggling!

My husband does the same thing. I do pretty much everything around here (which he admits) but he does help out ONLY if I ask... and then gets annoyed when I ask!

Maybe with the stress of the deployment coming up and him realizing that you do this on your own without him while he is gone is just making him feel worthless/useless.

Quoting Tiffany ღ:" Obviously it's stemming from more than you asking to make juice, lmfao. That's how guys are."

Well yeah it's obviously something else but I don't appreciate him coming at me like that and acting like I'm constant bitch to him.

Quoting 3 little monsters:" Well yeah it's obviously something else but I don't appreciate him coming at me like that and acting like I'm constant bitch to him. "

I understand. He kind of seems.....emotional if you know what I mean. Is there anything stressing him out lately? Not trying to make excuses, just wondering. It doesn't seem like YOU are the root of the problem. Seems like something a little deeper is bothering him...

Quoting ℳonster's ℳom:" Maybe with the stress of the deployment coming up and him realizing that you do this on your own without him while he is gone is just making him feel worthless/useless."

This is all I can figure and feeling like he's not in control of his life since the military basically owns him.

Quoting ℳonster's ℳom:" Maybe with the stress of the deployment coming up and him realizing that you do this on your own without him while he is gone is just making him feel worthless/useless."

 


That's probably it.

When you figure it out, let me know. lol. SO & I have similar conversations, quite a lot. Apparently I expect a lot from him but how is he supposed to know if I don't ask, but if I do ask, he says I don't ever give him a chance just to take initiative & do it first to surprise me.

Men just need to have an answer for everything whether it makes sense or not.