re: the most ridiculous argument

Quoting 3 little monsters:" This is all I can figure and feeling like he's not in control of his life since the military basically owns him. "

That would make me hypersensitive, for sure.

I guess I'll try to be less annoyed and more understanding but it's not going to be easy if he keeps having PMS breakdowns over nothing.

Hahaha... I don't blame you sister. Good luck!

Sounds like a typical healthy marriage. lol

I don't understand men sometimes. But I am pretty sure he doesn't understand me a lot more. haha.

Sounds like my brother. He wont help because he "doesn't know what you need help with" but he can't ask hey you need help?

I think men forgot u can ask that question.

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" When you figure it out, let me know. lol. SO & I have similar conversations, quite a lot. Apparently ... [snip!] ... take initiative & do it first to surprise me. Men just need to have an answer for everything whether it makes sense or not."

Are we dating the same man?

Honestly, it sounds like he just wanted to fight. I see no reasoning in him being that way if he didn't mind doing it in the first place. Plus, it was for his kids, so it's not like you were asking him to do a chore, just a normal parental duty.


Annnnd I miss you!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:</b>" Honestly, it sounds like he just wanted to fight. I see no reasoning in him being that way if he didn't ... [snip!] ... it was for his kids, so it's not like you were asking him to do a chore, just a normal parental duty. Annnnd I miss you!"</blockquote>




Right? It's not like I asked him to go to the store at midnight and got pissed when he said no or clean the house by himself. I could see his point in that case. It was just juice for the kids and I was cooking HIS freaking breakfast too. Whatever, I'm still annoyed but I'm just going to let it go.

I miss you too!! Come over for a playdate! Lmao ;)

My husband complains that he would help more if he knew what needed done. If I ask him to do something he says he doesn't want me to boss him bc I'm not his mom. And that he's more likely to do it if its his idea. Which he rarely comes up with these ideas so I think its partly just a guy thing

talk to him about what might really be bothering him. IF this isnt normal thing for him. most guys dont like to talk about feelings so they vent in other sometimes inapproprate ways.

also could it be a momma or ex wife (if he has one) issue? was his mom (or ex if applicable) really bossy like that? it might be he is transferring. my husband sometimes reacts to a simple request or statement very negativly no matter how nicely i put it simply bc his ex wife WAS bossy or expected certain things or fights got started over something simple. if that the case talk to him and when he gets like that remind him you are NOT that other person. thats what we do

Quoting MrsWoodstock:" talk to him about what might really be bothering him. IF this isnt normal thing for him. most guys dont ... [snip!] ... simple. if that the case talk to him and when he gets like that remind him you are NOT that other person. thats what we do"

There's no talking to him about anything and don't even get me started on his Mommy issues. I try to be understanding because she is literally a lunatic, I'm not saying that for shock value, I could curl your socks off with the smurf this woman has done and said. Frankly I'm surprised he and his sisters are sane (at times) from being raised by this woman.

I know we women like to analyse everything and give men the benefit of the doubt and think oh maybe he is stressed, maybe he is emotional, maybe I should cut him some slack but honestly a lot of the time I feel it is much more simple than that.

As simple as he probably just wanted to sit on his ass and do nothing whilst you ran around doing everything for him and waiting on him hand and foot. The reason he is annoyed is because you actually suggested to him that he might have to move of his ass and help you and instead admitting that he really couldn't be bothered and just expects you to do it because that reason wouldn't really cut it he turns it back on you. Telling you the reason he is complaining is because you are nagging him and he doesn't need to be told what to do diverts the issue back to you it also puts in a place a situation where you become more uncomfortable asking for his help because he has planted the idea in your head you are causing the issue. It's a double win in allowing him even more reign to sit on his ass and do nothing.

Don't fall for it and let him get away with being a lazy ass  

My DH has tried this a few times and I simply tell him if he doesn't want "nagged" then act like a grown up, a Husband, my equal and use his own initiative to get up and do things around the house as I do. If he doesn't and he would prefer to sit around like a lost little child needing guidance and direction then that's how I'll treat him so it's his choice...... Then I just remind him just us much as hates "nagging" that I equally hate having to baby a grown man who really shouldn't need a "Mommy" at his age so the feeling is mutual...... He quickly gets off his lazy ass lol

Quoting 3 little monsters:" There's no talking to him about anything and don't even get me started on his Mommy issues. I try to ... [snip!] ... this woman has done and said. Frankly I'm surprised he and his sisters are sane (at times) from being raised by this woman. "

i totally understand that. my ex had severe mom and dad issues (they were both crazy) unfortunatly those issues got the better of him, and our marriage. but sometimes you just have to call them on it. being in the military can put a ton of stress on people (or so ive heard) but if tis kind of stuff continues to happen you may have a more serious problem on your hands. the kids could start treating you that way too. ive seen it happen.