What am I going to do...

First off I feel really out of place posting here among people who have lost their children but I don't know where else to post it.
My mom is a foster parent and on my 17th birthday we got a call to pick up a 1 month old baby girl from the hospital. (Ill call her R) She was just leaving the NICU and was only 4lbs when we picked her up. Her mom had just abandoned her as soon as she was born and she was also born addicted to more than one type of drug. Her mom didn't even stay in the hospital to name her. She went two weeks with out a name while her mom avoided social services. I loved her like she was my own sister and have since she was a month old. Her mom decided to start visiting her children through social services because when my foster sister was born they took her other daughter that she actually wanted. She made it clear from the start that R was a rape baby and she didn't actually want her she just wanted her other daughter but when my mom asked her about an adoption she said no because "she didn't want anyone else to have her" She is almost two now and in a month they are sending her back to her mom even though they know her mom has said multiple times that she "hates her" and doesn't want anything to.do with her. Her mom has also not been handing in clean drug tests and my mom is almost positive she is still using. In less than a month she will be gone for ever and I will probably never see her again.. Im so scared for her and the life she is going to have once she leaves. I can't understand why any social worker would send a child to live with someone who has made it clear they hate them and only wants her so no one else can have her. She is just a baby and doesn't deserve this... I love her so much and have pretty much lost all faith in a society that would do this to an innocent baby...

I think this forum is appropriate. This is a type of loss. That is absolutely awful   maybe her mom will screw up and shell get to come back?

I don't understand why they'd send her back with positive drug tests...  "

I'm sorry. That has to be so extremely difficult.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" I think this forum is appropriate. This is a type of loss. That is absolutely awful   maybe her mom will screw up and shell get to come back?"</blockquote>



That's what we are hoping will happen.

Oh that's awful I am literally crying for that little girl. I truly hope that a miracle happens and she can stay

<blockquote><b>Quoting nursemaya (12weeks):</b>" Oh that's awful I am literally crying for that little girl. I truly hope that a miracle happens and she can stay"</blockquote>


Me too. I keep praying her mom will screw up bad enough that she won't have to go to her. Even if we couldn't have her I would just be happy knowing she was going somewhere where she would be loved. The worst part is that if she goes and lives with her Bio mom for good that's all she will remember, her sister being the favorite and her mom not caring about her. She won't remember that she lived with us and how much we all loved her. Its just not fair that she has to go from a home where she is so loved to a mom who hates her.