i was just about to go into my second trimester when i had my monthly appointment and it was time to finally be able to hear our babys heart beat....i know something was wrong right away it took her so long to locate the heart beat. finally she said there was no heart beat my heart sank that was 2 weeks ago and i still feel myself thinking about that day.just her telling us there was no heart beat just replays over and over again in my mind. i cried for awhile at first but now i just feel empty like im missing apart of myself.its one of the worse feelings i have ever felt. i work in a resturant and ofcourse i always see familys with their babies and children and i feel so horrible because i always feel jealous and keep thinking to myself how unfair it is that they all get to have a healthy child and i never ever got to hold mine. never even got to feel it move or kick inside of me.
my doctor said we can try again in a few months which we are going to do im really hoping not that another baby can replace the baby that we had lost but am praying that another baby may easy my emptiness and sadness a bit,,,,
I haven't been through that but I'm sure with time it will get easier.
Of course it will be difficult at first but dont worry.
Do you have people you can talk to? or how about counselling/therapy to help?
Hope you get past this.
And if you get pregnant again I don't think it would replace your baby and you wont think like that either. you wont ever forget your first, they will hold a special place in your heart.
Sorry for ur loss. I had the same thing happen to me about 3 years ago. I was 14 weeks along when the doc said there was no heartbeat. And i felt the same way. Me and my husband even named the baby and got tattoos of the name. Seeing babies made me cry. Every time i saw a family i thought why didnt i get to have my baby. The pain gets easier to deal with but it will never go away. But deff try again cuz u deserve to be a mom. Feeling all the pain you do right now shows that u could be a great mommy.i just had a baby girl shes 9 days old and no she will never replace the one i lost but shes perfect and i love her just as much as i love the one i lost. Just try to remember everything happens for a reason and u will get ur chance to hold ur baby. If u need to talk im here to listen.