Help ! Scared 15 mommy to be

HI , my names Tori i am 15 and pregnant my boyfriend is 18 his family is aware im pregnant and has offered me to go live with them. Sounds perfect , right? Wrong. My mother would kill me, if she knew i would pregnant, like 6 feet under no doubt. I don't just say this out of scaredness i know my mother very well and im actually quite terrified of telling her, my sister got pregnant at 16 and my mom forced her to get an abortion. I refuse to . Please anyone with information on this help me.

No one can force you to get an abortion.

You should consider your options though.

You're 15. You need a permit just to work part time.

You JUST started high school.

You're a fraction of a person and have no business being sexually active, let along raising a human being.

You're not getting any less pregnant. Your mom will know.

Quoting Red Bottom:" No one can force you to get an abortion. You should consider your options though. You're 15. You ... [snip!] ... no business being sexually active, let along raising a human being. You're not getting any less pregnant. Your mom will know."

This.

Also, your boyfriend better hope no one reports him for statutory rape...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [16 wks]:</b>" This. Also, your boyfriend better hope no one reports him for statutory rape..."</blockquote>




15 is a strange number. Generally most laws skip 15. 15 is the loophole.

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [16 wks]:</b>" This. Also, your boyfriend ... [snip!] ... him for statutory rape..."</blockquote> 15 is a strange number. Generally most laws skip 15. 15 is the loophole."

I guess it depends on the state. A friend of mine has been in jail for 5+ years for sleeping with a 15 year old child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [16 wks]:</b>" I guess it depends on the state. A friend of mine has been in jail for 5+ years for sleeping with a 15 year old child."</blockquote>




There are a few states filling in the gap.

Your mother can't make you get an abortion. She also can't legally kick you out, either, but at least if she tries you have a place to go.

I recommend inviting your boyfriend or his parents to be with you when you tell her, as long as you think they won't escalate the situation. Speaking to your school guidance counselor and asking them to call your mom in for a meeting to tell her is a good option too.

Beyond that, start trying to find a job if you don't have one and start thinking about your schooling. I finished hs online so I could raise my daughter and I honestly think that's the best way to go, especially if you have to work on top of your other responsibilities. And stay at home for as long as you can! Save, save, save every penny and don't try to move out until you have at least 6 months of wages in savings PLUS all funds for the move. Trust me, you'll save yourself a lot of worry and debt.

I am going to be 16, when i have my baby, i did not just start high school i am on track to graduate next year.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ToriHope:</b>" I am going to be 16, when i have my baby, i did not just start high school i am on track to graduate next year. "</blockquote>




It doesn't matter. You're 15 and pregnant. I'm sure you have a messy room, get bad grades here and there, forget to brush your teeth, and don't. Shower every night.

Try worrying about health insurance, pediatricians, food stages, medical bills, day care, etc.

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ToriHope:</b>" I am going to be 16, when i have my baby, i did ... [snip!] ... and don't. Shower every night. Try worrying about health insurance, pediatricians, food stages, medical bills, day care, etc."

Being a grown up sucks!

Red bottom , I understand where your coming from but your negativity is not needed, i am looking for advice and support thanks though

Quoting ToriHope:" I am going to be 16, when i have my baby, i did not just start high school i am on track to graduate next year. "

Still, I'd weigh in your options. You are very young, and to be having a child so young could keep you from accomplishing alot. There are mothers out there that have had children around your age and done something with themselves, but its a tough road. I was 19 when I got pregnant, 20 when she got here and that was tough on me. I can't imagine being 15 and pregnant.

Okay, seriously though, you need to tell your parents. They won't kill you. They may be upset, and I don't blame them, but they'll get over it. I'm assuming your parents are the ones to carry your insurance, and you need to find an OB. Also, you should probably get started on prenatal vitamins. Good luck to you. Raising a child isn't easy. I can't imagine doing it as a child.

you need to tell your mom so you can start getting proper prenatal care. its very important. and your BF needs to be dealing with telling your mom with you hes just as much responsible for this outcome

Squeaky , my parents are not supportive my father died when i was a baby i have a mom, and a step dad my mom is bi polar and is on medications because she has a lot of problems and she isnt all there, she doesnt know how to handle situations well but thank you.
Gizmo <3 Bry i understand where you are coming from but i will do whatever it takes to be a good mother, and i will keep my baby