So lonely

I've come to terms that I have ppd a little bit and try not to nag my SO too much but I am just getting more and more lonely and disapointed. I have a 3 month old son who my SO never spends time with or takes care of. He has never given a bath or changed a diaper. When I ask him to watch him he just puts him in the swing and goes back to whatever he was doing. Makes me sad that he doesn't even want to spend time with our amazing son and strengthen their bond. My SO is also soooo distant these days. He comes home from work, plays video games the entire night and then falls asleep on the couch. Same on days off. When I suggest spending time together he says things like " we will have lots of time to spend together" or " we are! " or " later we will". He always has an excuse and never follows through with plans. Today he took off work for "family day" and he played video games online the ENTIRE day. And still is. I had to ask him several times if we were still going to his parents which we had planned yesterday and he kept procrastinating till it was too late. Ugh I don't know what to do. I feel like he doesn't enjoy my company. I feel better when he's at work because at least he isn't ignoring me

Doesn't sound like you're depressed.

Sounds like you're unhappy in your smurffy relationship with a smurffy boyfriend and smurffy father.

You need to talk to your boyfriend.

Wow, you sound like a single mama. You might as well just be one at this rate. He sounds uncaring, unloving, and basically useless.

You can either talk to him about it, or go see your OB about the depression. I would strongly suggest you do both of these, and please do not put it off. If he's not going to step up and be a man, you're better off without him. Like you said, your LO is special and deserves nothing but the best.

I feel like a single mom. Never even got a single thing this valentines day. We didn't even watch a movie together. And I've tried talking to him and he either doesn't listen or doesn't understand. He has told me a few times that he is depressed about how broke we are and he wishes he could go party and go do activities like snowboarding instead of video games. But it's not that video games. He is just distant.

Honestly my SO was like this when LO was that age he wouldn't really particapate in helpin out it took till about she was 6months for him to be more involved with her now she's 15 mk tha and ther bond couldn't be any stronger , it could be that's he not use to the changes or he thinks that your LO is just a baby and doesn't need much attention etc bbut I would talk to your boyfriend about how you feel or else nothing will get solved

<blockquote><b>Quoting Belle.:</b>" I feel like a single mom. Never even got a single thing this valentines day. We didn't even watch a movie ... [snip!] ... go party and go do activities like snowboarding instead of video games. But it's not that video games. He is just distant."</blockquote>




Would you date someone like that? If you met someone like that, would you want to be with them?

<blockquote><b>Quoting {32WEEKS}:</b>" Honestly my SO was like this when LO was that age he wouldn't really particapate in helpin out it took ... [snip!] ... baby and doesn't need much attention etc bbut I would talk to your boyfriend about how you feel or else nothing will get solved"</blockquote>

Yeah I thought this too. I know he loves his son. And I don't think I would ever give up on our relationship that quickly. I'm going to try to sit down and talk to him without nagging and see how it goes. And even if it doesn't get better right away I know it will eventually.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Doesn't sound like you're depressed. Sounds like you're unhappy in your smurffy relationship with a smurffy boyfriend and smurffy father."

Really? Not you again. God you're an ass.  

OP, sounds like my ex after our son was born. You need to talk to him about this. If he's anything like my ex and thinks he's doing nothing wrong, it's time to get out of that relationship. You deserve to be happy

men can get a form of ppd too. not that it excuses his behavior but i would see if he would get some couples counciling or something

<blockquote><b>Quoting Belle.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting {32WEEKS}:</b>" Honestly my SO was like this when LO was that ... [snip!] ... and talk to him without nagging and see how it goes. And even if it doesn't get better right away I know it will eventually."</blockquote>




The newborn stage is pretty hard on men I find cause I mean newborns don't do much but cry and need attention and feed and men don't have that motherly instinct to where they no how to connect right away , fathers have to work for that connection, I felt like giving up when DD was small but we talked and stuck it out and now our relationship is strong and we communicate a lot better .... Sometimes it takes practice and patients   hope everything works out

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Belle.:</b>" I feel like a single mom. Never even got a single ... [snip!] ... Would you date someone like that? If you met someone like that, would you want to be with them?"</blockquote>



He hasn't always been this way and I don't think he always will be. Even so we had a baby together and sometimes you just gotta make it work and not give up. I know he loves me. Something has just been seriously off lately

<blockquote><b>Quoting {32WEEKS}:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Belle.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting {32WEEKS}:</b>" ... [snip!] ... is strong and we communicate a lot better .... Sometimes it takes practice and patients   hope everything works out"</blockquote>



Thanks! That gave me a bit of hope and made me feel a bit better  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Belle.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting {32WEEKS}:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Belle.:</b>" ... [snip!] ...   hope everything works out"</blockquote> Thanks! That gave me a bit of hope and made me feel a bit better  "</blockquote>




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