Quoting Crazyhazel89:" maybe that is what you actually find attractive...that he helps out...have you talked to your DH about helping out more?"
Maybe DH is already doing enough. Just because he doesn't help with DD does not mean he is not pulling his fair share. I am so sock of women whining about the guy not helping with DD. I don't change the oil in our cars 1/2 the time, or even 1/10 the time. There are things he does, and things I do. I do not need my husband to be my equal, I need him to compliment me. Frankly, with the things he does for me, I feel I am getting the better deal with things such as DD. Like the time a rat took up residence in our shed. I didn't have to deal with it, he did. He does all of the dirty jobs. I do laundry and dishes. We share cooking because he loves to cook, and is quite good at it.
Also, if he works out of the home and you do not, it is not fair to think that he should work and then come home and do half of everything. You can fool the men and talk about how tough you have it, but I have done both, worked and stayed home with the kids. If I had it my way, I would never work. At home, I am the boss. If I want to take a break and watch TV for an hour, I do. If I want to log onto the internet, I do. If I want to eat, I do. If I feel like taking a nap while the children take theirs, I do.
It's far better than a boss being on your butt about meeting a deadline. When I worked, I felt exhausted by the time got home.