stillborn/late term loss

Has anyone had one. My son was due Jan 3, 2013 and was born on August 21, 2012. I was 21 weeks in preterm labor and he passed during labor. I just recently got my BFP. and due Oct 15. a YEAR exactly after his special candlelight walk we had for him.  

How did you feel about the new pregnancy? I feel like i am replacing him. I just want my baby boy back        

i do have those feelings too i just found out for sure this last week. I try to tell myself though... a lot of people have multiple children and love them all the same... i can too... just because they are gone, doesnt mean we ever have to stop loving them <3

I'm so sorry for your loss. I often had those feelings after I lost my daughter, but once they're born, you'll realize that the love you have for this one wont take away from your son. You'll be fine. <3

Quoting ashley (noah's mama):" Has anyone had one. My son was due Jan 3, 2013 and was born on August 21, 2012. I was 21 weeks in preterm ... [snip!] ... for him.   How did you feel about the new pregnancy? I feel like i am replacing him. I just want my baby boy back        "

  so sorry honey! It is SO hard! I feel the same way. I lost my baby girl in May at 39 weeks on Mother's Day. I am now 19 weeks with my (just found out it's a boy) today. I can totally relate. I want to be happy all of the time, and at times I am happy and excited, but I still miss my little girl. I wanted HER! uggg. But, I have to say it gets better as your pregnancy goes on. Although it is not easy at all I really am getting more excited. It's frustrating, heart wrenching, nerve wracking, scary, exciting, and every other emotion you can think of cycling thru. It is a roller coaster. I am glad there are more of us on here though because it will be scary ride for all of us and hopefully we can be there for each other.

Also...any BG veterans who could make a pregnancy after stillborn sticky on here? Would be so nice for all of us to have somewhere to go when we are having our down times. Or our up times. I am not sure how that works!

Quoting ashley (noah's mama):" Has anyone had one. My son was due Jan 3, 2013 and was born on August 21, 2012. I was 21 weeks in preterm ... [snip!] ... for him.   How did you feel about the new pregnancy? I feel like i am replacing him. I just want my baby boy back        "

I lost my son at 22 weeks on Aug 14, 2009. I got pregnant 8 weeks after.. i was terrified about losing another baby... I ended up with another boy & he was born screaming (&healthy) at 33 weeks. You're not replacing him, he will always be yours and your babies angel that will keep you both safe.. try googling spirit babies, may make you feel better.. it helped me a lot.

Quoting ashley (noah's mama):" Has anyone had one. My son was due Jan 3, 2013 and was born on August 21, 2012. I was 21 weeks in preterm ... [snip!] ... for him.   How did you feel about the new pregnancy? I feel like i am replacing him. I just want my baby boy back        "

I am so sorry :-( I lost my daughter due to sids 6 days after having her in september and now i am pregnant again also due in october, I know what you mean about feeling like you're replacing them. If you need to talk I am here.

I know actually how you are feeling.. I'm grieving as I'm writing this message.. October last year I found out I was pregnant very excitied and happy.
Went to every doctor appt n ultrasound in January I found out it was a girl.. According to the ultrasound Tech & my OB said everything was GREAT.. which made me feel at ease... Then on February eleventh I began a horrible day.. went to the emergency room only to be told that my daughter wouldnt make it... my cervix is naturally soft.. I was only five months n two weeks.. she weighed one pound even n fully developed all bt her lungs... God this hurts n its my first pregnancy