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Quoting mmmc15:" What is he on for his ankylosing spondylitis? That can be nasty and cause some major pain. He really ... [snip!] ... he was emotionally and physically abusive. Took me a long time to get him to leave. Finally had to get an order of protection."

hes taking fkn methadone which he needs to get off now! bc he hasnt had medical insurance he should now hes been working i think 6mo now. he hadnt worked for over a year & was taking care of his our son and myself.

I was married for 7 years and out of those 7 years my SO lied and was always on the computer signing up to dating websites and when I caught him he would say it wasnt him. I finally caught on that he was cheating on me with different girls from the Internet. Also he was never there for me, wouldn't get a job and was always playing on the Xbox. He had a friend that needed a place to live for a while and we agreed that he could stay with us. I know it's not right but, his friend was a great guy and was always there for me and helped me with everything and we ended up falling in love. I left my husband 8 months later for his friend and we are still together, our relationship is so perfect it's like something out of a movie.

hes called me stupid, he calls me a bitch, he tells me to shut up, he says hurtful things.

Geez....well I know that there are injections he can get (I believe it is Enbrel) that will help with symptoms. They are hella expensive though so probably not an options without good health insurance.

That being said if he is verbally abusing you it is not good for you or your son. I would tell him that if he does not get help you are leaving. Give a time a frame and if he refuses then leave. I know it can be scary but no one deserves to be treated the way it sounds like he is treating you.

Quoting mmmc15:" Geez....well I know that there are injections he can get (I believe it is Enbrel) that will help with ... [snip!] ... if he refuses then leave. I know it can be scary but no one deserves to be treated the way it sounds like he is treating you."

ya its hard i dont want my son treating any woman like he treats me and his mom even says to me i cant beleive my son is treating you that way.

If he's verbally putting you down, is it worth staying? If you've tried to make it work and it's still not, is it worth even thinking of trying anymore?

DD's father is a drinker and was verbally abusive. I stayed for DD, biggest mistake of my life. He ended up meeting a new girl and kicked me out.

Quoting ℓise ♥:" If he's verbally putting you down, is it worth staying? If you've tried to make it work and it's still ... [snip!] ... and was verbally abusive. I stayed for DD, biggest mistake of my life. He ended up meeting a new girl and kicked me out."

i wonder if we both tried harder maybe it would but then i think if its not working yet will it ever.
i think of pros and cons.
i think sometimes is all this worth staying, i think what will his parents do if i left, we all live together and all hae been there supporting eachother though the tuff times. i dont know why i feel bad if i leave im leavign them all high and dry. i would be upset if they said oh wel are moving bye.
then again they are grown ups and should be able to handle it but with his parents only getting $500 a month( his mom babysits) and his dad waiting on social securty they couldnt make it nor do they really have anywhere to go.

friends tell me to just leave & i want to. but i donno why i want to give it one last shot. maybe take a day or two just him and me alone away from everyone being able to talk and relax maybe a hotel or soemthing. ugh
i know what his dad growing up drank and abused them hes been sobor for over a year now. i know he has anamosity toward him that might be a problem things werent bad when it was him & me living together. super hard =(