Custody questions

Once paternity is established the father has to get his rights to the kid if he and the mother arent married, does anybody know how to do that? Also how long do you think it would take for a lawyer to get you into court to apply for shared parenting? (joint custody)

What are the fathers chances of getting joint based off of the things below:

has a 1st shift job
has his own home, clean, a place for baby to sleep
has a car
no criminal record
doesnt drink or do drugs

He seems to have a good chance of getting joint, but it depends a lot on the state.

You file for custody, and it really depends how long it takes. If the two parents are civil, they may just be able to do a mediation and have a judge sign off on the agreement.

You have to file in family court. If the father really is as stable as listed, then getting joint custody might not be that hard, particularly if it's joint legal custody. Joint physical custody might be trickier, depending on the child's age, but he would still be allowed reasonable time with the child.

Quoting The Doctor:" He seems to have a good chance of getting joint, but it depends a lot on the state. You file for custody, ... [snip!] ... it takes. If the two parents are civil, they may just be able to do a mediation and have a judge sign off on the agreement."

Ohio is known best for giving parents who arent together joint custody. The mother in this case is freaking crazy and wants to keep the baby away from the father for her own selfish reasons. So it's going to be a fight if he's proven to be the childs father.

Usually when the paternity is established if child support enforcement is involved there is a court date and he can request visitation or joint custody then. Otherwise, try mediation to do it amicably and just have a written agreement, or he'll have to hire a lawyer to go to family court.

Quoting PurpleBama582:" You have to file in family court. If the father really is as stable as listed, then getting joint custody ... [snip!] ... custody might be trickier, depending on the child's age, but he would still be allowed reasonable time with the child. "

he is. the father wants to have visitation time with his child and have a say so in everything for the kid. Medical, dental, schooling, stuff like that

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:</b>" Ohio is known best for giving parents who arent together joint custody. The mother in this case is freaking ... [snip!] ... the baby away from the father for her own selfish reasons. So it's going to be a fight if he's proven to be the childs father."</blockquote>
Just curious.. You said it yourself that Ohio is known best for giving the parents joint custody then why have you been fighting Zach about custody in court?

Quoting Princess Leia's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:</b>" Ohio is known best for giving ... [snip!] ... that Ohio is known best for giving the parents joint custody then why have you been fighting Zach about custody in court?"

because he didnt care when we were together why does he care now. He works 2nd shift the kids would be with you the majority of the time, why be with the step parent when the real parent is available. They need stability, going back and forth as much as Zach is asking for is stupid. That's why.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:</b>" because he didnt care when we were together why does he care now. He works 2nd shift the kids would be ... [snip!] ... the real parent is available. They need stability, going back and forth as much as Zach is asking for is stupid. That's why."</blockquote>
He doesn't want to have them go back and fourth that much. He at least takes care of them though. He doesnt ignore them. He gets everything the kids need. He had to get a better job to pay ypu child support. It wasn't his fault they put him on second shift though. He didnt have an option.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:</b>" because he didnt care when we were together why does he care now. He works 2nd shift the kids would be ... [snip!] ... the real parent is available. They need stability, going back and forth as much as Zach is asking for is stupid. That's why."</blockquote>
And again no offense but if Eric gets joint custody for that child then while he's at work the step parent (you) would be watching that child so its kind of the same thing as yours and zachs custody battle right now.

Quoting Princess Leia's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:</b>" because he didnt care when we ... [snip!] ... to get a better job to pay ypu child support. It wasn't his fault they put him on second shift though. He didnt have an option."

He put in the parenting plan that i just got in the mail that he wants them 1 week and i get them the next. i think the arrangement that we have now is enough. he's making less at the job hes at now then what he had, and that was a choice to switch jobs. Eric getting joint custody of this baby is different than mine and zachs situation, i want zach to be in the boys lives, i want them to know and love their dad. this girl doesnt want eric involved at all and wants to run off with the kid. shes really messed up in the head jacinda and this little boy being with her all the time isnt good for him. i will show you how messed up she is. eric would get him when hes off work, he works 1st. he would get weekends. joint doesnt always mean 50/50.

Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:" He put in the parenting plan that i just got in the mail that he wants them 1 week and i get them the ... [snip!] ... messed up she is. eric would get him when hes off work, he works 1st. he would get weekends. joint doesnt always mean 50/50."

I know joint doesn't always mean 50/50 but I know plenty of people (some are actually already past the age of 1  that would go to their moms one week then to their dads the next week and they've done that since they were around the boys age and they love it. I do understand when parents are horrible parents that they really shouldn't be around their children. If it was really bad then maybe it would be better if Eric had full custody and she had limited visitation. At least if it is his child then she cannot just take the baby and leave and if she does that'll just hurt her in the long run. I think when both parents are perfectly capable of taking care of the children then it is okay to do the week to week thing, He works second shift but he still spends a lot of time with them. When we have them we don't let them sleep in that much just so he gets a lot of time with them. We get them up, he spends time with them up until the minute he leaves for work. He doesn't drink or do drugs either. It was his choice to switch jobs, but he's at least gotten set times as to when he works unlike his old job where half the time it was all day shifts. He worked 5am-9pm one time. He had to always stay over because he was a manager. He's better off at this new job and has better benefits. With this job he didn't have any choice on the shift he got. They told him that he got whatever shift they gave him.

Quoting Princess Leia's mommy:" I know joint doesn't always mean 50/50 but I know plenty of people (some are actually already past the ... [snip!] ... benefits. With this job he didn't have any choice on the shift he got. They told him that he got whatever shift they gave him. "

Thats great for other people but its not for my kids. The boys always act up for 2 days after they get home from your house because your rules are different than mine. It would be too much on them, plus like i said you would be spending the majority of that time with them. its gonna be up to the court, i disagree with what zach wants. and $185 a month for 3 kids is a joke.

Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:" Thats great for other people but its not for my kids. The boys always act up for 2 days after they get ... [snip!] ... of that time with them. its gonna be up to the court, i disagree with what zach wants. and $185 a month for 3 kids is a joke."

$185 a month for 3 kids isn't a joke. Anyways it would only be $185 if it was 50/50 anyways. There are people that we have talked to and they pay way less than that a month but that's also because the mother works too. $836 a month for 3 kids is extremely ridiculous. They mostly need food and diapers (which Aiden doesn't wear diapers anymore and Carson is learning here how to use the bathroom). Aiden is the one that mostly needs new clothes too because he is the oldest. The younger two can wear his clothes when they grow into them. they don't all need new and matching outfits all the time (they aren't triplets). How are our rules different? They're not. We are pretty strict on rules but not overly strict. They know what they can and cannot do. We don't just let them run around. They clean up after themselves before naps and before eating and going to bed at night. They don't hit each other. They don't yell and scream. They listen to us extremely well. They don't just sit here watching tv all day either. Aiden does a lot of the preschool work books. We've been teaching Aiden a lot and even Carson too. Carson is just harder because he is still 2 so he still has a lot to learn.