So confused!!!!!

I"m 17wks and i don't know what to do i just had a baby 12/10/11 so i'm kinda thinking this happen 2 fast but i don't want to get rid of it my bf do i cant stand to think about it im pushing towards keeping it i got 1 week by 2 decide i need some advice.....PLEASE!!!!!!!

Do what's the most responsible thing for you. But if you have THAT much doubt, I wouldn't go through with it. Good luck.

Don't abort your baby just because he wants you to, you will regret it for the rest of your life.

Only you know what is best for you, and your family.

Good luck!

Quoting °NoName™°¯\_(ツ)_/¯:" Do what's the most responsible thing for you. But if you have THAT much doubt, I wouldn't go through with it. Good luck."

 

Do what you think is honestly best for YOU. Don't do it just because your SO wants you to, though, you will regret it and most likely resent him for it down the road.
Good luck!

You're still allowed to get an abortion at 18 weeks? Wow. Not judging but I couldn't do it....

If your boyfriend can't deal with the fact that you're pregnant and you're almost half way, he probably isn't the best judge of the matter. Does he know what a baby looks like at 17 weeks? It's your body and your choice but if you don't think you can raise another child, there are other options which are more fair for the baby. You could look into adoption. There are people out there who would love to have a child and can't who would be able to provide for that LO if you felt comfortable with it.

Just a personal bit of information but I have a son who is a month older than your first child and I'm 19 weeks on friday. I've seen people manage with this age gap just fine. A lot of people actually recommend it. We just looked back to when DS was born before we decided to try for another baby and we decided we could do it. It'll be a lot of work but kids are always work  

If you feel like keeping it then keep it, don't let your bf reflect on your decision. Don't do it if you don't want to because normally that will cause regret.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" You're still allowed to get an abortion at 18 weeks? Wow. Not judging but I couldn't do it.... If your ... [snip!] ... before we decided to try for another baby and we decided we could do it. It'll be a lot of work but kids are always work  "</blockquote>




When I had my abortion protestors were spewing the same stuff. These are not things she wants/needs to hear. Seriously.

I had my 2nd child 12/18/11. I'm due again in 19 days. I was SHOCKED and in denial kinda for quite a while. I know that its going to be tough having 2 kids that are so close in age (my oldest is 6) but there was no way I could make a choice to do anything but keep my baby. You have to do whats right for you. If you are feeling so doubtful about aborting I wouldn't do it. You will probably end up resenting your SO for feeling pressured into it.

thanks for all the advice im keeping my baby i cant bring myself to abort i just will have 1 19mths and a newborn i just looked at some pics of babies aborted at 17wks and it was horrible i will not be part of that club for no.1 so im going to do what best for me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting tia4:</b>" thanks for all the advice im keeping my baby i cant bring myself to abort i just will have 1 19mths and ... [snip!] ... of babies aborted at 17wks and it was horrible i will not be part of that club for no.1 so im going to do what best for me."</blockquote>




Good luck love! I'm sure everything will work out the way it should!

Quoting Bettinas:""

Some states will allow abortion up until 24 weeks gestation.

Quoting Gemmas mommy!:" Don't abort your baby just because he wants you to, you will regret it for the rest of your life."

This.
My fiance tried to convince me to abort early on, but I stood my ground because it wasn't something I wanted to do even though it was unplanned. He eventually changed his mind and is glad we're having her.
If you terminate, make sure it's because you feel it's the right thing to do. Other wise you'll resent him forever for pushing you into it. I know I would have never forgiven my fiance had I gone through with it.
Whatever you decide, best of luck.

Quoting tia4:""

Glad you've come to a decision.
I've been on both sides. I terminated 4 years ago at 8 weeks 5 days. Have no regrets about it.
but when I was faced with the decision to terminate the baby I'm currently pregnant with I ended up deciding against it.
I know either way coming to a decision takes a lot of weight off.
Best of luck.