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Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Thank you <3"

Youre welcome, I hope you find the answer that will be the best for you and you will be at peace with. Best of luck!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:</b>" My mom is pro life but she's also vocalized telling me not to have anymore kids. & i have vocalized ... [snip!] ... - but at the same time i don't.. i feel like strictly because im worried of what people will say and how we'll afford it."</blockquote>



I think that if you want the baby and are only worried about what other people will say, then maybe abortion isnt the way to go. But I agree, you should make out a pros and con list and go from there. Good luck with whatever you choose  

Quoting Vivian [♥]:" I'm sorry you're going through this   If it's his first I can understand why he wants it, and for you, ... [snip!] ... you did is best. I hope you can decide, as peacefully as possible. Talk it out with SO, let him know where you're at <3"

I've always been pro-life for myself; my sister got an abortion and it really hit home with me, because well, it was blood.
But it's hard to sit here and say "I don't want this baby" because they didnt ask to be conceived. and he's SOOOO excited i feel like i'm stealing his happiness.
Not to mention his ex did drugs while they were together / pregnant with their first and killed the baby at 17 weeks gestation. He's wanted nothing more then to be a father. I just feel OBLIGATED to keep it in a way

Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" My mom is pro life but she's also vocalized telling me not to have anymore kids. & i have vocalized ... [snip!] ... - but at the same time i don't.. i feel like strictly because im worried of what people will say and how we'll afford it."

A friend of mine is in the same situation as you. She was on her third, it was her boyfriends first. He pressured her into keeping the baby though, and she's miserable. She's back at home with her parents, and sadly wishing she had an abortion.

when I was 16 I got an abortion, and lied to my boyfriend and told him I had a miscarriage because I was scared to tell him because he was ready for it but I was not, I felt terrible until I told him the truth and still I felt horrible, a few years later I knew I had made the right decision(not the lying part) but the abortion because I wasn't ready to be a mother at that time, and I didn't want to bring a child into the world with not being able to raise it, and/or make somebody else raise it for me. I honestly believe that if you truly want something you will make it work, if your not ready for it then your not ready even though you have other children. plus if you do have it and your not excited about it then you will probably think about it for the rest of your life, whatever your decision is it will be what was ment for you. goodluck to you and your family.<3