naming dilema

ok so i wanna name my little girl Adele Marie. adele is my great grandma that is still alive to meet her great great granddaughter. and my grandma's, mom's, and little sister's middle names are Marie. i wanna tie my little girl's name into the family and give it meaning. her last name will be dh's of course. but the thing is...dh's mom and dad split up years ago and she never had his last name changed and he is super close with his mom. and his dad just started coming around when we started dating and that was rough because his dad didnt approve of me until i got pregnant and he has now been doing alot to help us out. he gave us a better car than the one we had so that baby is safe, he bought the carseat and stroller, and he's been making more of an attemp to hang out with us even tho he lives a state away. i dont mind the baby having his last name. but dh's mom feels as tho the baby's name has no connection to her. her name is heidi ann. my great grandma's full name was adelheid but when she came over from germany she changed it to adele because she didnt like adelheid. i wanna include dh's moms side of the family also. but im not sure how. it feels like 2 middle names is to much for a name but im not sure. she wants me to put her maiden name on the end of her last name and have it be Adele Marie Jellum-Baer. but i dont see how that would work.

how does Adele Marie Ann Jellum sound? or Adele Ann Marie Jellum? i dont know if i like that. her mom's name is gertrude (not sure middle name). her dad's name was raymond carl. he was so close to dh and passed before we started dating. how does Adele Rae Marie sound? or Adele Marie Rae? idk it just sounds like to much. Dh's sisters middle name is Rae so it would make it special too. I could do Adele Rae but im not sure i like the sound of it. my grandma and me are very close and her middle name is marie. she raised me when my mom wasnt able to because my mom was 17 when i was born and her parents wouldnt let me stay there so my grandma took care of me and that was hard for her because i was born 10 weeks early.
Why do baby names have to be soo hard. any advice ladies? im kinda stuck and to think im 39 weeks 3 days and could have her any day

why don't you turn AnnMarie into one word?

What about
Adele Annmarie

isnt that to many a's so close together tho?

I would use either Annmarie or Maryann instead of the two separate names.

I also don't think that Adele and Jellum sound good together....

its either his last name of jellum or mine (huettl) lol so not to many options. and adele is so important to us for a first name because its my great grandma's

I can not believe she wanted you to put her last name on your kid's name. SMH.

I like Annmarie.

Quoting MamaBaer:" isnt that to many a's so close together tho? "

No.

Quoting Aprizzle:" why don't you turn AnnMarie into one word?"

This. Or you hyphenate it into Ann-Marie. I know a woman named Anamarie, so that could possibly be an option as well.

How set are you on the name Adele? You're only using it because your great-grandmother is still alive, right? Are you even really close with her? It just seems like you have important reasons you use the rest of the names, and the reason for Adele is just because someone survived long enough.

What is DH's mom's name? The child should definitely have the same last name as you and DH. It would be a nightmare explaining that every time on school forms, daycare forms, etc.

I really don't like two middle names.

Also, is this going to be your only child? My paternal grandfather's name was Robert (he died when my dad was 19). My dad's middle name is Robert, and he and my mom wanted to use it for their son. Alas, they have 4 daughters. They would have loved for me to use it for DS, but I don't like it as a first name. DS's middle name was kind of set (family tradition to give the first son his father's name as his middle name). We told them that we would use Robert as a middle name on our next son. You don't have to honor every single family member with your first child.

very close with my great grandma. she helped my grandma raise me and i would visit her all the time

Make yourself happy because it's your child and someone will always be unhappy no matter what you decide. I can't believe your MIL is making you feel bad about not naming the baby after her. She had her chance to name her kids and now its yours. You will be the one having to live with whatever you choose to name the baby. All of my child have either their first or middle names after family members but I never had people telling me what I should pick. If they had I would have told them off. If your MIL wants to be a "real" grandma it has nothing to with a name but with how she treats her granddaughter. The first thing a "real" grandma does is not stress out the mom to be. If you had ask her opinion then I could understand. You and your DH need to get together and decide and don't be pressured by others. Good luck and enjoy naming YOUR baby.

Just had my little girl   water broke but pelvis was to small. Had to do an emergency c-section. 7 lbs 8.6 oz and 21.5 inches long   name Adele Annmarie Jellum. Ty ladies soo much for your help

Congratulations! I'm glad you came up with a name on time!