Bf wants to get married and go in the army.. please help!!

My bf has always wanted to go in the army but then i got pregnant. im scared to get married because everybody i know gets divorced and i want a life partner. I feel for anyone who has been divorced. Well anyways.. he wants to get married and go in and he will be doing what he loves(following in his gpa,dad, and brothers footsteps) they were all rangers. but I have a hugeeeeeee family here and do not want to get stuck into being stationed someplace i hate. we were living in georgia when i got pregnant and i didnt like the people there and it was boring as heck, nothing for kids or anything. This is my first baby and the first grandchild/baby in the family in 16 years. My family is so excited and i dont want to be somewhere where my baby wont have family. I am from south florida where every where you go theres something to do and my family lives within 5 minutes of each other.. MAYBE IM BEING SELLFISH OR JUST THINKING BOUT FAMILY AND MY CHILD NOT BEING BORN.

Is anybody or does anybody know how it is to be married to someone in the army please give me your stories.. its a subject i need to know about lol..
PLUS IM SCARED I DONT KNOW PROS OR CONS. IM SO CONFUSED.

My husband is in the army and he doesn't care for his job but eh to each their own. However there are a lot of pluses like giving birth will maybe cost me 8 dollars. All medical is paid you're house is paid for everyhing is paid for basickly which means you have a lot more money for you and the baby it'll be so much easier for first time parents than being in the civillian world. Now the stationing. He can get stationed whee he wants to be if there is a big reason for it . Like being close to your family. Tha'ts a great reason the Army is verry family orented and you'll really like it more than you think. If you want to talk or ask more questions just PM me or we can talk over here. I'm always online.

My husband is in the Navy and is deployed right now and we are stationed in Hawaii and Our family lives in Oklahoma! I am used to having my big family around back home!
The only way you can survive being a military wife is if you Love him (not love, it has t be the real thing!) It is not easy at all! You probably won't have to move away from your family for a little while. While he's in boot camp! which for Army I think last 3 months! But It's something that you and him are going to have to decide if y'all are prepared and ready!

I'm sorry I'm not much help!

My husband is in the Air Force, so i can tell you a little bit about being a military spouse. Like Akkema mentioned: everything is paid for. It really does help with being a first time parent. I know in the air force they have what is called a "wish list". Basically you pick your top 8 bases that you would like to go and when it is time to move, they try their damndest to get you them. There is always the chance of not gettitng what you want. The military communties are very family oriented. For jobs, as a spouse you have preference over other people to get a job. They offer free counseling and other things free too. If you shop at the BX/PX you don't pay taxes. You get to live in really cool places (Italy, Japan, Germany, Guam, ect) if you so chose. I hope this helps you out. IF you have more questions pm me.

You did help because those are things i think about.  He has no problem leaving his family, they live in ga and he lives in south florida with me and my family. He would love to be stationed in hawaii.. do you like it, is it worth being by yourself so much at times. and plans he thinks about is hopeing for nc, upper georgia, or cali. I just need friends and civilization and i think i can be ok. But there was a time i thought i could handle motherhood by myself i didnt need his bull-nonsense and i thought about leaving him. but i also think its my pregnancy hormones.. so thats another thing to think about. I do love him and without him i do not know what id be doing and think id go crazy but im just ahh, i guess decision making is not my thing right now. especially with my hormones lol

I'm married to an LT in the army. He's deployed right now and before that, he spent a year in IOBC, Ranger School and RSLC. We've been married for overtwo years and last November I gave birth to our first son while he was in Iraq.
I'm not going to lie, it's not easy. But he is the love of my life and I couldn't imagine being without him. I would follow him anywhere and wait around for him without question.He's the man that I am meant to spend my life with.

I love my Navy wives without them I wouldn't be able to get through the deployments! BUT I hate Hawaii! It is a great place to visit for a weeks or two but after that you will not like it so much! At least not Oahu! B/C most of the locals don't like mil. b/c there are so many of us! I have heard so many great things about the other Islands and it's easy to go visit them (when your not preggers) lol
But you do have the beach, all the memorials, and so much you can do once you get situated!
NC is beautiful!
It sounds like you will do fine! And like the other ladies said you get paid medical, payed housing and their are some other benefits!
Just don't be shy to go out and make friends with other wives! But be careful who you pick!

I am the same way with the hormones! LOL...... I have had the biggest problem going and picking out baby stuff without my hubs!

Quoting Mommy's little Miracle:“ I love my Navy wives without them I wouldn't be able to get through the deployments! BUT I hate Hawaii! ... [snip!] ... I am the same way with the hormones! LOL...... I have had the biggest problem going and picking out baby stuff without my hubs!”

I can see hawaii getting old. its beautiful yeah but the locals look and seem mean. i watch lots of tv and movies lol.. and i cant wait til im not preg anymore so i can do things like waterparks, theme parks, drinkin, and just stuff in general. i feel like a huge beast. larger than ever. haha. but as wierd as it is i want to buy my baby such cute things so i dont want to be where theres no civilization or stores or u have to drive 2 hrs to get somewhere. lol. that bugs me. i left georgia for that reason, well also my family was here in fla too. lol.. but decision making. my god i cant even pick out what i want to wear or where i want to eat or what i want to eat. lol. its crazy

Quoting Kel-1st time MOMMY:“ I can see hawaii getting old. its beautiful yeah but the locals look and seem mean. i watch lots of ... [snip!] ... decision making. my god i cant even pick out what i want to wear or where i want to eat or what i want to eat. lol. its crazy”

Hahaha... I love being pregnant but I can't wait till I can go to the waterpark or on a hike and all that stuff! Lol....
You can drive all the way around the island in around an hour (depending on traffic) We have to get a lot of our stuff on base b/c out in town (grocery stores) are way too expensive! And I miss having the options of baby stores and good baby stuff! Lol.... I don't know why but they don't sell very good baby stuff here! And I've never been as disappointed in a Walmart in my life! Lol......
I have got only a few cravings through out my whole pregnancy! I have more of the I don't want this going on! Oh and everything back home! I am craving some Chick-fil-A, Steal~n~Shake and Olive Garden so bad! Lol....

Quoting Mommy's little Miracle:“ Hahaha... I love being pregnant but I can't wait till I can go to the waterpark or on a hike and all ... [snip!] ... want this going on! Oh and everything back home! I am craving some Chick-fil-A, Steal~n~Shake and Olive Garden so bad! Lol....”

I crave mexican.. pizza.. pasta.. wendys twisted frosty.. starburst.. i dk why lol.. oh and coldstones. its al like 2 mins from my house. and walmart is amazing. i love target too.. my food cravings have given me stretch marks i hear. i gained 30 lbs so far and im 31 weeks. but worst part is its all in my face and my belly. im so huge lol. but i will hope to work it off.. i hope lol.. the beach is 20 mins from me(traffic).. its like a big party though. well depends what beach we have 4 here. I just hope if he gets stationed some where, if he decides to go. that its nice. i would love to go to cali.. but i dk if its as nice as they say

Quoting Kel-1st time MOMMY:“ I crave mexican.. pizza.. pasta.. wendys twisted frosty.. starburst.. i dk why lol.. oh and coldstones. ... [snip!] ... gets stationed some where, if he decides to go. that its nice. i would love to go to cali.. but i dk if its as nice as they say”

The Wendy's out here just got the twisted frosty and I love them! And I like cold stone! I have been craving pizza so bad lately, but it's only b/c I am waiting till my hubs gets home and we are ordering a lot of pizza and going to eat it for the first few days that he's home so we don't have to cook or leave the house! LOL........ I can't wait!
I have never been to Cali but I know ppl who lived there and they love it! My hubs boat was in Sandiego for a couple weeks last yr and he said that he wants to visit but that's it! But we are major country ppl. Not big city ppl! But I hope we get stationed in upstate NY next!
I have some awful stretch marks  
But I still wear a two piece swim suit to the beach and pool! I just hope they fade after I have the baby!
It all goes to my butt, thighs, and boobs! Lol...... Which doesn't bother me! I just can't wait to tone it up so it's not so flabby!

I am an Army Wife and i LOVE it. Love it! I get to travel and do new things I never would be able to otherwise. Last year, for example, I spent 2 weeks in London by myself, the Spring before I took a long weekend in Paris on a whim, last Summer we camped in the Bavarian Alps. (Just finished 3 years in Germany)

You HAVE to be independent and strong, though. You WILL be without your family and life long friends for longs stretches of time and you have to be OK with that. You have to pick up and start over again often, and sometimes you are surrounded by groups of people you would never choose on your own.

To be a successful Military wife you have to do it for you and your family. You have to know that you can face anything. Your husband will be gone often, sometimes for long stretches of time. He may never have a traditional work week, he may work until 1AM with no notice and no chance to call you, etc... The Military will be more involved in your family life than I can describe many times. It is HARD. You get bounced around and your job is to find the good in it. And to be strong, because your husband CANNOT be spending time worrying about a weak woman falling apart while he is in a combat zone, he needs to keep his head in the game.

BUT...the trade off is big. My husband does something we are both proud of. He has medical and retirement benefits no civilian company can match. He has the chance to grow and develop as a professional in leaps and bounds. There is no other life like it.

I miss my family. I miss my friends from home (CA, btw. I LOVE and ADORE CA and will always miss it!) But I have an exciting life and I have grown up so much because of it.

I dk what it is but since being pregnant ive wanted to do so much!! I for some reason want to see the carribean, beautiful water, like crystal clear, mountains, Just really pretty things.. Also get trashed lol.. Its just a way of experience im craving lol. I hear cali is somewhere you just want to visit not live. But my bf if he could pick a place to be stationed he would love to go to upstate Ny. I do not really like NY but i was younger when i went.. What do you like about upstate? Just curious? Me and him took a walk lastnite and he is just getting really excited. He wants to go so bad and i think talking to all you ladies on here really eased my mind. and forGNOME that sounds all beautiful.. my Bf's mother and father did all that and went to germany and traveled while he was in the army and they lovedddddd it.. Im starting to start thinking of "MY" family and how this will benefit. I want a full time father for my child and him be around all the time for his son but i have to realize him going in the army he is doing it for us. I think just right now me not able to make a decision for nothing, and family is what i need during my pregnancy.. thats what is reflecting my decision and why im scared lol. But you guys are a great help  

I'm so glad you were able to work it out, and get the good side from it. Gives me hope!! True I am not a military wife, or a wife for that matter, (my boyfriend is to old to join or get drafted  ) I can understand how you feel about being seperated for long periods of time. But one thing I have learned, home is where the heart is, if your heart is with him, you'll have to follow to him in order to feel at home. My ol man <.< and I had some issues when I decided to keep our baby. He knew I wasn't ready at the time to settle down and wanted me to take my time to get ready, and wanted to go the adoption route. This all lead to me going to stay with my Mom in Florida(we both are from Ohio) . Everything is set up to have the baby in Florida. Atm I am in Ohio visiting him. I am suppose to go back to Florida tomorrow(via Greyhound, a joke of a bus service) for the next few months to have the baby and then move back once she old enough for the trip. We have worked out most of issues. The only issue that remains is that if someone doesn't hide my car keys and my money on me I'll be back in Ohio with him and our family before the next week is out. I can't handle the idea of bringing out baby into the world without him. It should be a happy event and Im scared without him there it won't be, I tend to slip into depression fairly eaisily, I just pulled myself out of that black hole and don't want to go back!!

Quoting Sara1984:“ I'm so glad you were able to work it out, and get the good side from it. Gives me hope!! True I am not ... [snip!] ... be, I tend to slip into depression fairly eaisily, I just pulled myself out of that black hole and don't want to go back!!”

When i got pregnant i moved back to fla with my mom. and of coarse brandon came with me. i wanted to be near family. but i dont think brandon would let me away like that. especially pregnant. he thought bout staying in georgia and making money but did not want to miss out on my pregnancy. Where in florida are you staying? how old are you? if you dont mind me asking