For parents of ADHD children.

How do you learn to trust again? This is a question most parents with ADHD kids will ask at one point..

Once the trust is broken by the kids actions repeatedly how do you learn to trust them again, can you? Has anyone with an ADHD teen managed this?

What do you mean by trust broken? My son has ADD/ADHD and I trust him so I'm not sure what you mean.

My sons only 6, he'll be 7 in may, but i have no choice but to put faith in him and trust him hes my son...

Ive learned the faces and the tones in his voice, luckily he lies like his father so i have years of experience with his drama under my belt...

He's on meds now and i don't let his diagnoses which are adhd and odd be an excuse for him to Wild out,

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" What do you mean by trust broken? My son has ADD/ADHD and I trust him so I'm not sure what you mean."</blockquote>

I'm not sure how old your son is but I think I'm directing this at people with older kids.

I could trust my daughter when she was younger, not now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" My sons only 6, he'll be 7 in may, but i have no choice but to put faith in him and trust him hes my ... [snip!] ... under my belt... He's on meds now and i don't let his diagnoses which are adhd and odd be an excuse for him to Wild out,"</blockquote>

I totally understand that, I don't let use ADHD as an excuse but with ODD which my daughter has too, it makes them learning things a little harder in my experience and other parents I have met, because they believe we are wrong most the time. I have an 8 year old who will be 9 soon. It's very hard, she understands why people shouldn't steal from her or hurt her but she can't take responsablitys for her own actions yet. It's a hard process and I know it some almost every parent in this situation will have to deal with at some point.

I dont understand what you mean by trusting your kid with ADHD....
Granted my son is only 7, but does have ADHD. How old is your daughter? Maybe its more of an age thing and not an ADHD thing

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" What do you mean by trust broken? ... [snip!] ... son is but I think I'm directing this at people with older kids. I could trust my daughter when she was younger, not now."</blockquote>


My son is almost 6. What does she do that makes you not trust her?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" What do you mean by trust broken? ... [snip!] ... son is but I think I'm directing this at people with older kids. I could trust my daughter when she was younger, not now."</blockquote>




Is she a teen?? that usually comes with having a teen, lol

what is she doing that's diff from other teens, or that ur tying to the adhd

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army ... [snip!] ... when she was younger, not now."</blockquote> My suon is almost 6. What does she do that makes you not trust her?"</blockquote>


My daughter steals, lies, can cannot be left alone with her sister because I have caught her threatening her and hitting her. This is not because she wants for anything, she knows good behavior receives good rewards and she also knows I have what we can a 'truth policy' in our house which means if her, her sister or brother do something wrong, they can get tell us the truth once it has happened or when we first ask them and depending on the depth of what has happened (with her siblings mostly fighting) its normally an apology to each other.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... them and depending on the depth of what has happened (with her siblings mostly fighting) its normally an apology to each other."</blockquote>



That would be from the ODD not the ADHD. My son doesn't do any of those things. Is she on medication?

From what I found ADHD with boys and girls are different. I've hear boys are more likely to flip out and run from situations, can be more violent. But from the parents of girls with ADHD I have spoken to we have agreed its more psychological, lying and stealing rather than violent outbursts, they tend to self harm more also..but also know ADHD is less common in gurls

I am sorry you have to go through that. I'm not sure of what to tell you.

But...My 5 1/2 year old nephew has ADHD. From what I have learned, his mother blames most of his issues or behavior on the disorder. Yet, I do not think it is. A lot of his bad behavior comes from being spoiled and given everything he wants because he has been the only grandson. I attribute some things to the disorder, but...Then I have to remember that he is still a child, he still has child like tendencies, and he has to be punished and treated like a child.

Is your daughter medicated?

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army ... [snip!] ... That would be from the ODD not the ADHD. My son doesn't do any of those things. Is she on medication?"</blockquote>

Yes she's medicated but the medication is for most ADHD is to control the hyperactive side to help them focus.

Quoting Talena_caro:" From what I found ADHD with boys and girls are different. I've hear boys are more likely to flip out ... [snip!] ... lying and stealing rather than violent outbursts, they tend to self harm more also..but also know ADHD is less common in gurls"

Ive read the same thing about ADHD in boys and girls. My son has a hard time letting go if someone upsets him and is very emotional.
Is your daughter on medicine for the ADHD? Just wondering what shes on. My son is on Vyvanse

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002518/

Here's a link about ADHD. Sorry my iPad won't let me link it.