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Thanks so much you guys!

You have to weigh your pros and cons and decide which is the lesser of two evils. I, personally, would not have a child by someone who didn't want me to be pregnant unless I knew I could fully take care of that child without their support (emotionally and financially).

Wow. Dont let him bully you into something you dont want

Your DH sounds like an ass. Wtf kind of comment is "you want to have this baby so ill forget about my son."?
You have two other children with him right? Those two didn't make him forget about his son?

Your body, your choice.

Quoting Cersei ™:" You have to weigh your pros and cons and decide which is the lesser of two evils. I, personally, would ... [snip!] ... me to be pregnant unless I knew I could fully take care of that child without their support (emotionally and financially). "

This! VWS

Don't let him bully you but really think about it. Truth is that you will probably be raising all 3 children alone. I see you resenting him whether or not you get the abortion if he doesn't come around. I would leave him though if he doesn't come around. I could never raise a child around someone who didn't want the child. My dad was like that and it was a horrible childhood.

Quoting Addi's Momma:" Don't let him bully you but really think about it. Truth is that you will probably be raising all 3 children ... [snip!] ... I could never raise a child around someone who didn't want the child. My dad was like that and it was a horrible childhood."

He's not really bullying her by being honest about not wanting a child. She said he is the sole financial provider for their family, maybe he does not want to take on the financial responsibility.

Quoting Jenna+1:" Your DH sounds like an ass. Wtf kind of comment is "you want to have this baby so ill forget about my ... [snip!] ... my son."? You have two other children with him right? Those two didn't make him forget about his son? Your body, your choice."

I know right! Never mind the fact that I encouraged him countless times to bond with his son, let our girls get to know their big brother, and when his son's mom was starting smurf I told him to go see his son without me there to make things easier. (he doesn't have court ordered visitation yet)

Quoting Cersei ™:" He's not really bullying her by being honest about not wanting a child. She said he is the sole financial provider for their family, maybe he does not want to take on the financial responsibility. "

I can understand that and I agree with your first statement as well. We talked about the financial situation in this when I first told him I was pregnant. I've planned to go back to work this summer, even before learning I was pregnant! We both did the calculations and it really isn't going to hurt us if we have this child. If worse case scenario happens and we break up, I know I could handle being a single mother. It wouldn't be easy at first, but I know I could do it.

Quoting October Rust:" I can understand that and I agree with your first statement as well. We talked about the financial situation ... [snip!] ... happens and we break up, I know I could handle being a single mother. It wouldn't be easy at first, but I know I could do it. "

Then go with your heart. You know your situation better than any of us do so if you feel that you can afford to do this by yourself, keep your baby and give him the finger. Maybe he will come around, maybe he won't but at least you knew from the beginning of pregnancy what you were getting yourself into.

Best wishes OP. I've been in a similar situation and it was very, very, very hard but everything happens for a reason.

Quoting Cersei ™:" Then go with your heart. You know your situation better than any of us do so if you feel that you can ... [snip!] ... into. Best wishes OP. I've been in a similar situation and it was very, very, very hard but everything happens for a reason."

Yeah, it's funny because I've gotten pregnant on 3 different kinds of birth control now! (4 if you count 2 different kinds of pills) and it's funny because I was on the depo shot when I got pregnant with DD and implanon with LO! If I've gotten pregnant while being on serious stuff like that these children must be meant to be here.

Thank you for your kind words and advice, they don't go unappreciated! Here's to hoping things work out for the best!

Quoting October Rust:" Yeah, it's funny because I've gotten pregnant on 3 different kinds of birth control now! (4 if you count ... [snip!] ... be here. Thank you for your kind words and advice, they don't go unappreciated! Here's to hoping things work out for the best!"

I agree. Sometimes no matter how hard you try to prevent, your body still winds up doing what it is naturally wired to do.

Your welcome!! Things will work themselves out exactly how they are supposed to be. Stay positive <3

I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it's gotta be tough wanting a baby and not being supported by the man who helped you make it. As far as advice goes, I really don't know what to say. I was talking about it with my fiance' after I read this thread (sometimes I like to get his opinion when I hear about guys being dumb on here) and he said, "She needs to tell her bitch ass man to tighten the hell up and take responsibility" lol. He also said he doubts your SO really feels that you're only having the kid to take attention away from his son, he's just coming up with stupid reasons for you to not keep the kid. I'm sure he's just feeling pressured considering he's the financial provider for the family, and scared that he won't be able to support the child. Maybe you should talk to him, see if that's what's causing such a reaction, and explain to him that it'll all work itself out. I know people in way worse situations that still manage to take care of their kids, I'm sure you guys can figure it out.

Wow, this is a tricky one. Either way, one of you is going to be resentful. How could your husband even say something like that to you? That is just so disrespectful and cruel.

I gotta say if he doesn't want more kids now or in the future, maybe it's time he get his ass snipped snipped for good.

I'm not sure what your decision is or what your outcome is going to be all together, but good luck with everything.

Quoting LayLu:" I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it's gotta be tough wanting a baby and not being supported ... [snip!] ... out. I know people in way worse situations that still manage to take care of their kids, I'm sure you guys can figure it out."

Thank you! It's nice to hear a guy's opinion about this too!
I guess I can only hope everything will work out for the best right now.