Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Condoms don't 100% protect you from anything. I don't believe you have to have an outbreak to get it, ... [snip!] ... even know they have it. You can get herpes from giving oral to someone who has herpes. So basically, yes all of that is true."
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" I found out I had herpes like a year ago because I had a severe outbreak. I'd been with SO for 6 years ... [snip!] ... was thrush, now I'm thinking it was herpes all along, without the sores. My doctor said that it was absolutely possible."
Quoting EBF*JB:" This stems from another conversation. We were talking about people without herpes dating those who did. ... [snip!] ... believe, but it got me to wondering if it was possible. I know lots of people without herpes have dated people with it, etc."