Throwing myself a shower?

So, idt the girl that told me since the beginning of my pregnancy that she would be throwing my baby shower will be anymore. The last time she mentioned anything about it was in December, saying we needed to go sometime the following month to do my registry. Unfortunately, her father passed away at the beginning of January. Since then, we haven't talked at all. I just don't have the heart to bring my baby shower up to her, while she is grieving. But, I have only seven and a half weeks until my due date, and im getting very nervous about having absolutely nothing planned for it. I have almost everything I need for my son, aside from a stroller and car seat, and obviously I can never have enough diapers. So a baby shower isn't totally necessary, but would be nice. And I liked the idea of having a day to celebrate the life my fiancé and I are bringing into this world. So I was wondering, would it be tacky to throw my own shower? I don't have any family to ask (both my parents are deceased, and my siblings live kind of far away). Only problem is I work so much, idk if I will have time to get it all together in such a short amount of time.

IMO, asking some to throw you a shower and throwing yourself a shower are tacky as hell.

I would just use te money I would put towards a shower as buy the things I needed.

Have a meet the baby party. Make it a pot luck and just hang out and have everyone meet the baby.

eh, its not worth the energy IMO...if you have most of what you need. If my sister didnt throw one for me..no way was i going to go thru the trouble to do all that..no thanks. by the time you buy food and stuff..you can buy the rest of what you need. Why not save the money u;d use on a shower and have a little get together after the baby is born? Idk this is just my opinion. i can understand you wanting a babyshower tho being itsyour first baby.

Save the money for the shower on diapers. Plan a meet and greet for when the baby is born.

Since you mostly just want to celebrate the life you created, why not have a party/get together after your son arrives? That way everyone can meet the new addition to the family.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" IMO, asking some to throw you a shower and throwing yourself a shower are tacky as hell."</blockquote>




I do, too :/ but I was hoping to get some reassurance otherwise, so I could still have a shower for my son. Oh well.

<blockquote><b>Quoting V & E's Mom! [37 weeks]:</b>" I would just use te money I would put towards a shower as buy the things I needed. Have a meet the baby party. Make it a pot luck and just hang out and have everyone meet the baby."</blockquote>


 

I agree with this.

I never had a baby shower with my first 2 & although my mum talked about throwing me one this time (like she did the first two times), she's obviously hopeless at organisation. lol. I don't mind. I'm a bit of a control freak & I like to pick out my babies stuff myself, maybe this makes me sound like an ass but I don't want to end up with clothes I'd never put on my child and if I got a ton I would have to out of obligation.

The reason why it's tacky is because a shower is traditionally meant to celebrate a woman's entrance into motherhood. Just like a wedding shower is meant to celebrate a woman's entrance into marriage. You don't see women throwing their own wedding showers, right? It is fact that it is know that those parties revolve around presents, so throwing yourself one does look tacky.
Plus like the other ladies said, the money and time you'll spend won't be worth it. When the baby is a few months old, maybe have a bunch of friend and family over to meet him/her.

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting V & E's Mom! [37 weeks]:</b>" I would just use te money I would ... [snip!] ... an ass but I don't want to end up with clothes I'd never put on my child and if I got a ton I would have to out of obligation."

I was thrown a shower and that happened... I mean, I appreciated everything! Of course, it's all super thoughtful but... I can't use most of it. Either I already had it or just wouldn't use it.

I wouldn't throw myself one... pregnancy and work is too draining as it is.

Someone threw a baby shower for me with both of my babies but if I have another baby after this I plan on doing a girls night out and just go out to dinner with some of my girlfriends and celebrate it that way without any presents!

Thanks ladies for your quick responses. I like the idea of having a get together after my son is here. I would feel a lot more comfortable with doing that, as well.

I threw my own babyshower for my second child bcuz I wanted to make sure everything was done nd there was no arguing about wuts wut nd wut I don't like. just like the old saying if you want something done right do it yourself nd I did it wasn't as draining as I thought

I'm throwing my own Shower. But we are having a friend be the "host".
We both have family where we live but they are not financially stable to throw us one. And also we are not dependent on others to do things for us. We are used to doing things ourselves. We don't like the chance of something not going how it should. I don't see it tacky to do it yourself at all. But you could always have someone "host" for you if you wanted. Also you don't have to tell anyone you are throwing the Shower yourself.