I don't want 2 different baby showers!!

My mom is throwing me a shower at her house cuz she will be the one cooking n cleaning n everything makes sense to do it there not our house right. Well my fiancé says to either have her throw it here or I have to have 2. My moms is 45 mins from us n his family is 45 mins from us but his family is also 45 mins from my moms so it should work out for everyone cuz my grandparents n aunts n cousins would have over an hour to drive if we had it in our home but only a half hour to my moms. My fiancé is now telling me that I have to have 2 cuz his family don't know my home town where also my friends that would attend live so his grandparents n stuff wouldn't go cuz they don't need to drive that far in a town they don't know but it's THE SAME DISTANCE!!!! I'm really upset cuz I just wanted one big party to celebrate our daughter. am I wrong for only wanting one baby shower?

No, you're not wrong for only wanting one, I had to have 2 bc of a similar reason. I didn't like the idea of it at first but I got a bunch of stuff from both. And got to celebrate my child twice. They both turned out great.

I had 3 and it actually made it easier. Everyone at each shower knew each other and there wasn't any awkward introductions. Lol. All focus was on the baby that way.

I mean, not wanting to have two is silly, but also is telling you that YOU have to throw one for yourself for a specific group of people, KWIM?

I didn't get one. So I would have been very happy to be offered two.

My aunts did decided to throw me a Meet the Baby Shower which is to be next month. Both I doubt my own mother or sisters will even show up. I'd be happy to have people care enough about me to want to come to my shower and be happy about the birth of my daughter. At least me and SO are happy enough for everyone.

yeah i think if he wants you to have a second one you shouldnt have to plan it

I only had one and barely got anything from it with my son. And none of my family came. (Black sheep...) I, personally, wish I would have had two or three with him, so I would have been a bit more prepared.

Quoting *~AngelEyes~*:" I only had one and barely got anything from it with my son. And none of my family came. (Black sheep...) ... [snip!] ... came. (Black sheep...) I, personally, wish I would have had two or three with him, so I would have been a bit more prepared. "

IMO, baby showers aren't to give you the things you need for your baby. They're to celebrate you becoming a mommy. So, that kind of rubs me the wrong way, but to each his own.

<blockquote><b>Quoting kaz86:</b>" My mom is throwing me a shower at her house cuz she will be the one cooking n cleaning n everything makes ... [snip!] ... I'm really upset cuz I just wanted one big party to celebrate our daughter. am I wrong for only wanting one baby shower?"</blockquote>




Having two would be kinda dumb.... Invite everyone and if they don't wanna come, that's their choice! Honestly, you don't need the stress....

Quoting The Doctor:" IMO, baby showers aren't to give you the things you need for your baby. They're to celebrate you becoming a mommy. So, that kind of rubs me the wrong way, but to each his own."

That is true, I guess. I never really thought about it like that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" IMO, baby showers aren't to give you the things you need for your baby. They're to celebrate you becoming a mommy. So, that kind of rubs me the wrong way, but to each his own."</blockquote>


  This. Of course, it is common that guests do bring gifts with them to "shower" the new mother/child/family, but it's not a requirement. Just like birthday parties. Celebrating the life that woman has growing inside of her is what it's about. Don't go into it thinking you're gonna come home fully prepared for your little one, that way if and when you are gifted something, the gratitude you feel genuine and you won't have to be disappointed.

Quoting The Doctor:" IMO, baby showers aren't to give you the things you need for your baby. They're to celebrate you becoming a mommy. So, that kind of rubs me the wrong way, but to each his own."

 
It's up to you to be prepared, not everyone else to buy you smurf.

Quoting S U Z I E:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kaz86:</b>" My mom is throwing me a shower at her house cuz ... [snip!] ... be kinda dumb.... Invite everyone and if they don't wanna come, that's their choice! Honestly, you don't need the stress...."

I agree!
If his family wants to host their own shower, that's different. You shouldn't throw one for yourselfs, when your mother is already planning one.

Quoting kr.r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" IMO, baby showers aren't to give you the things ... [snip!] ... one, that way if and when you are gifted something, the gratitude you feel genuine and you won't have to be disappointed."

Yeah  

I didn't include my registry with my invites-- if someone called and asked I told them where it was, but honestly the things I did get were just so sweet. Someone handmade her crib sheets-- we still use them to this day. All of the big things I had before the shower, aside from a stroller (which I didn't really need until she was way bigger).

Yea when I told him that his family don't have to come that just made it a bigger deal n he was mad n right now all im hearing from him is thats how u white people do things n this is how us Mexicans do things n it's just stressing me out n I wouldn't mind 2 don't get me wrong but it's the fact that its not about what they want n with having to that means I have longer to wait to see what I don't get n need to buy last min n the 2nd one would be at my house so that would leave me with having to stress about making sure my house is ready for a bunch of people n kids to come trash it so I can be stuck cleaning it all up after when I should be relaxing n getting stuff ready for baby I really just want to cry n I'm not giving a choice but to have 2 now