re: I don't want 2 different baby showers!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting kaz86:</b>" Yea when I told him that his family don't have to come that just made it a bigger deal n he was mad n ... [snip!] ... when I should be relaxing n getting stuff ready for baby I really just want to cry n I'm not giving a choice but to have 2 now"</blockquote>



Totally didnt see that he wants you to throw your second one... If his family wants it that bad, can one f them host it? That's a lot on you...

Quoting LoveMyBubbaBoy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kaz86:</b>" Yea when I told him that his family don't have to ... [snip!] ... that he wants you to throw your second one... If his family wants it that bad, can one f them host it? That's a lot on you..."

 

Yeah. I'm not into the idea of throwing your own baby shower in the first place... but ESPECIALLY if you don't want to throw one for yourself. That's just silliness.

Quoting The Doctor:"   Yeah. I'm not into the idea of throwing your own baby shower in the first place... but ESPECIALLY if you don't want to throw one for yourself. That's just silliness."

The money it'll cost could be much better spent preparing for the baby!

I don't know if they would they will prolly bring food but I'd be doin all the cleaning family parties r always at this house cuz we have more room but he don't ever take the time to talk to his family about things and if he does he dont ever tell me how anything is working out till the last min

I'm to the point where I'm just going to tell my mom to stop planning my shower that I don't want one I thought the point of a shower was to relax n spend time with friends n family not for the mother to be to stress

Quoting kaz86:" I'm to the point where I'm just going to tell my mom to stop planning my shower that I don't want one ... [snip!] ... want one I thought the point of a shower was to relax n spend time with friends n family not for the mother to be to stress"

That's silly. Your mom is throwing you one, without you having to do the work.

Just tell your SO that you do not want to throw yourself one, that if they want to celebrate, they can come to the one at your mother's.

I just don't want to fight about it anymore that's why I wanted to just give up on the shower all together

Quoting kaz86:" I just don't want to fight about it anymore that's why I wanted to just give up on the shower all together"

Don't. Your family wants to celebrate you, and do something nice.

You shouldn't tell them they can't do something nice because your SO and his family is telling you you have to do something separate.

Quoting The Doctor:" IMO, baby showers aren't to give you the things you need for your baby. They're to celebrate you becoming a mommy. So, that kind of rubs me the wrong way, but to each his own."

My mother most not have gotten that memo. I asked her if she was come to the Meet the Baby Shower my aunts are hosting next month and she said she wasn't showing up empty handed. I was like wtf, this is your grandchild, don't you want to be the proud grandma.

I doubt she will come.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" My mother most not have gotten that memo. I asked her if she was come to the Meet the Baby Shower my ... [snip!] ... up empty handed. I was like wtf, this is your grandchild, don't you want to be the proud grandma. I doubt she will come. "

I mean, that sucks. But I kind of understand... because I would feel so awkward and out of place if I showed up to one without a gift. But, I mean... it could be something small. Doesn't have to be a break the bank gift.

Hell, she could smurfin' make something for a gift. haha... but I'm sorry. I hope she comes.

Quoting The Doctor:" I mean, that sucks. But I kind of understand... because I would feel so awkward and out of place if ... [snip!] ... have to be a break the bank gift. Hell, she could smurfin' make something for a gift. haha... but I'm sorry. I hope she comes."

LO doesn't even need anything. She has all she needs plus more. I told her not to worry about it. I know my aunts are giving me handmade gifts which is what I love. My mother never missed my sisters's baby shower and this is most likely going to be my only child and her last grandchild.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Don't. Your family wants to celebrate you, and do something nice. You shouldn't tell them they can't ... [snip!] ... tell them they can't do something nice because your SO and his family is telling you you have to do something separate."</blockquote>


This. I would totally just leave it up to them at this point.

I know I should just let her do something nice n I will I also hope everyone comes around n sees my point n I don't know what I'd do without my mom she's my rock I need her now prolly more than ever she was there at my ultrasound n she will be by my side when I give birth

I guess I would just talk to some people in his family and ask if they would be interested in coming to your baby shower at your moms. If not if they decide to throw one then great, if they decide to go then great. I wouldn't be giving my own, that seems silly.