re: miscarriage

Quoting Bear's mama ♥:" Ehhhh. I got pregnant at 16, had my son at 17. Not a fun time. As much as my I love my son... He's my ... [snip!] ... It's not all that and a bag of chips. It's harder than hell. The smurf you see on Teen Mom is cake compared to real life."

I do not watch teen mom, I go to charter school and am doing very well and will continue to do all my assignments and make all my appointments with my teachers only turn in my assighnments (one day a week appts at this point)

A/B student will stay that way

will not be using daycare I work daytime he works nights we will make it work..

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" Does KS just not care about the kid going to school and having enough time to do their homework/sleep? ... [snip!] ... from 7-3pm, and working 5pm-1am. A whole 6 hours to sleep and do homework? Wow. Seems way too much for a child to be doing."</blockquote>


Just because there aren't restrictions on how many hours a 16 or 17 year old can work doesn't mean every 16 and 17 year old kid with a job is working full time. I don't know many who did, maybe a couple. Most held part time positions they would work on the weekends and maybe two other short shifts during the week.

School doesn't start until 8am and not everyone stays until 3pm; if a student only ha a few credits left to graduate and they wanted to work more hours at their job, they were eligible to take fewer classes and be dismissed before school let out). I had all of my credits done (save my final year of AP English and one semester of AP Gov) by the start of senior year and was able to leave school early after 3 classes, leaving me with plenty of daytime left.

Quoting therewillbeswans:" I do not watch teen mom, I go to charter school and am doing very well and will continue to do all ... [snip!] ... this point) A/B student will stay that way will not be using daycare I work daytime he works nights we will make it work.."

Yeah. A/B student, while going to school full time, working full time, AND having a baby full time. lmfao. You're dreamin', girl.

When do you suppose you'll have time to do homework? Sure, the first few months you may be in the swing of things... but you'll get tired of being up all night with a baby. Your grades will suffer. Same as your SO.

Listen, I was TTC at 18 with a guy I was with for 4 years. I thought I had everything planned out. I was gonna graduate high school before I had the baby. He and I were both working. I thought it'd be smooth riding from there. No, not at all. Yes we were working, but there was no way we could afford a place of our own. So... we'd be living at home (absolutely no way to willingly bring a child into the world). I didn't have a car, and his was constantly breaking down. I couldn't sign a loan for a car, nor would I have been able to with no credit. I would've been stuck. Any extra money we had would've gone towards the baby... instead of a car, apartment, etc. So no savings. We would've just been living with my or his parents, on food stamps, and barely getting by.

Why don't you want the BEST for your child? Why don't you want to wait a few years and get a GOOD job... get your own place, a car, and PROVIDE for your child on your own? Do you know how good that will feel? The decisions you're making are selfish. Point blank. You're thinking of what YOU want, and not what is best for your child. I'm not even saying you have to go to college... SO and I didn't, but we bring in $3k a month.. have a nice apartment with nice things, both have nice cars, and we're able to pay ALL of our bills/food/miscellaneous things. Why don't you want that for your child? Can you please explain that to me?

Quoting kr.r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" Does KS just not care about the kid going to school ... [snip!] ... AP Gov) by the start of senior year and was able to leave school early after 3 classes, leaving me with plenty of daytime left."

Yeah, it doesn't work that way here (well, Kentucky.. since that's where I graduated). I had all the credits I needed after my first semester of high school, but still had to take 6 classes a day for the last semester because we didn't have school-to-work programs. So I graduated with more credits than necessary.

Quoting therewillbeswans:" I do not watch teen mom, I go to charter school and am doing very well and will continue to do all ... [snip!] ... this point) A/B student will stay that way will not be using daycare I work daytime he works nights we will make it work.."

great plan sounds like you have smurf figured out. what happens when this cool dude bolts and you are doing this on your own? who watches the kid then? For that matter who watches the kid after the first week when daddy relizes that getting no sleep while working night shift sucks and says smurf it? where are you living that your part time teen job is gonna pay for rent utilities transportation diapers formula baby supplies food etc.? mommy's house? why don't you get a college education and a career first since you are soooo smart and get such great grades? that would be much better for your child. Aren't you interested in giving your child the best possible life? or are you so selfish to think that your need to be loved and needed by a baby is more important then the best life possible for your child? your immaturity is painfully obvious in your desire to TTC at 16. Anybody TTC at 16 is selfish and stupid. What's the hurry? why can't you wait? why not TTC at 22 instead of 16? afraid lover boy is gonna leave you? does he even know you are activly TTC?

Quoting nursemaya (11weeks):" great plan sounds like you have smurf figured out. what happens when this cool dude bolts and you are ... [snip!] ... can't you wait? why not TTC at 22 instead of 16? afraid lover boy is gonna leave you? does he even know you are activly TTC?"

sigh ... I agree not taking this whole thing well can admit that but not going to answer your questions which are just to put me down sorry not going to argue with you when you are just looking for an argument.

Quoting therewillbeswans:" sigh ... I agree not taking this whole thing well can admit that but not going to answer your questions ... [snip!] ... your questions which are just to put me down sorry not going to argue with you when you are just looking for an argument."

Nobody is looking for an argument. We're pointing out the painfully obvious. You're selfish for doing this when you can't provide a good life for your baby. THEY deserve better than what you're going to give them at this age.

Quoting kthx.:" Nobody is looking for an argument. We're pointing out the painfully obvious. You're selfish for doing ... [snip!] ... this when you can't provide a good life for your baby. THEY deserve better than what you're going to give them at this age."

Yes she is looking for an argument even telling me wrong info saying my Dr told me something because he thinks I am stupid -_-

just not going to answer some peoples questions.. not on here to argue

Quoting therewillbeswans:" Yes she is looking for an argument even telling me wrong info saying my Dr told me something because he thinks I am stupid -_- just not going to answer some peoples questions.. not on here to argue"

Your doctor IS a smurfing lunatic if he's giving you TTC advice and helping you out. No sane adult would ever give advice to a child TTC.

You're not answering questions because deep in your heart, you know we're right. But your need for love and attention is blocking the fact that you're ignoring what you know is best.

Quoting kthx.:" Your doctor IS a smurfing lunatic if he's giving you TTC advice and helping you out. No sane adult would ... [snip!] ... you know we're right. But your need for love and attention is blocking the fact that you're ignoring what you know is best."

what ... that Dr. is not giving me TTC advice never said anything like that when you have a miscarriage no matter what age you are it is only responsible to explain to the patient what exactly that means

and my Dr. and my kind nurse explained that my one miscarriage did not mean my body was smurfed up or that my fertility was compromised, that was the point he kept trying to get across to me and that I had no reason to fear repeat miscarriages just because it happened once

never told that ER DR. I was going to TTC but okay not going to argue it said I am not handling it well I know my life I now I am doing ok sure do not think my situation is ideal but is what it is..

Quoting therewillbeswans:" what ... that Dr. is not giving me TTC advice never said anything like that when you have a miscarriage ... [snip!] ... said I am not handling it well I know my life I now I am doing ok sure do not think my situation is ideal but is what it is.."

Where do you plan on living/raising your kid? at your moms/dads/his parents house? Because I know for a fact you cannot afford a place on your own. Unless it's in the ghetto and like $200.

Quoting therewillbeswans:" Yes she is looking for an argument even telling me wrong info saying my Dr told me something because he thinks I am stupid -_- just not going to answer some peoples questions.. not on here to argue"

you don't think I know what doctors think of little girls like you??? I work with them and I know exactly what they feel and say to girls like you. seriously you are dumb if you think he didn't walk out of the room and say to the nurses that you are crazy and smurfed up and he hopes you don't get pregnant again until you can properly care for the kid. Seriously you need to get right with yourself before you add an innocent child to your smurfed up drama. seriously take time to explore why you need to do this now and work on making yourself stonger and more independent both finacially and emotionally, cuz you certainly aren't now

Quoting kthx.:" Where do you plan on living/raising your kid? at your moms/dads/his parents house? Because I know for a fact you cannot afford a place on your own. Unless it's in the ghetto and like $200."

My long time bestfriend/bf has his own place has a job is 18 you are assuming and you do not know what you are talking about sheesh... just like you were assuming before...all you have done is assume

Quoting nursemaya (11weeks):" you don't think I know what doctors think of little girls like you??? I work with them and I know exactly ... [snip!] ... this now and work on making yourself stonger and more independent both finacially and emotionally, cuz you certainly aren't now"

Sure whatever you say I doubt everything you say with the way you act on here alone .. your actions say something totally different

Quoting therewillbeswans:" My long time bestfriend/bf has his own place has a job is 18 you are assuming and you do not know what ... [snip!] ... and you do not know what you are talking about sheesh... just like you were assuming before...all you have done is assume"

So.... you're gonna live with someone else? Instead of providing a roof for your LO on your own?

Typical.


You're gonna do what you're gonna do... because you're 16 and think the sun shines out of your ass. Reality is going to slap you HARD when you realize you have 2 days until pay day and no diapers and no gas to get to work. Or when your friends want to hang out or go see a movie... but you can't, because you have a baby with colic screaming in your ear for hours on end. Or when you no longer have a place to live because your bestfriend will eventually get fed up by being woken up multiple times throughout the night by a crying baby who cannot be soothed.

But no, you have it all planned out right? Your life is going to be PERFECT with your high school education and a 2 year old on your hip at graduation, right? I mean... if you even make it there.

I wish I lived in such a fantasy world.