Letting organ donor's die D&D

My SO and I were having a conversation the other day about being organ donors, I am and he isn't. He isn't one because he believes doctors don't put the same effort to save a donor's life when one is in critical conditions than when a non-donor is. He says he really knows this happens because he works at a hospital.

I have been researching this as this hits very close to home as my mom's life was save when a 20y/o died in a car accident. I was only 6, I don't remember much, but I know that the donor's family was not happy and they never wanted to hear from my mom. My mom always told me to be a donor and I have pride being one but I don't want my life to be at risk because I am one...

What is your view on this? Do doctors really do this? Or do they fight for everyone's lives the same way?

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" My SO and I were having a conversation the other day about being organ donors, I am and he isn't. He ... [snip!] ... because I am one... What is your view on this? Do doctors really do this? Or do they fight for everyone's lives the same way?"

I'm not sure but DH isn't one either for the same reasons. But I am, I don't have many organs left but if they want/need them when I'm gone, go for it.

I don't think it's very common. One or two shady doctors might have done it to save a relative or friend, but for the most part doctors genuinely want to help their patients.

I have heard the same thing, and I truly have no idea. I am not a donor, nor is anyone else in my family.

Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" I'm not sure but DH isn't one either for the same reasons. But I am, I don't have many organs left but if they want/need them when I'm gone, go for it."

See, I am debating this right now. I'd like to be one but I don't want doctors to give up on me too easily for it.

I'm not a donor, though. Not because I think doctors won't save me, but it's just not the path for me.

I've heard the same thing. A GOOD doctor will fight for everyones life the same.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" See, I am debating this right now. I'd like to be one but I don't want doctors to give up on me too easily for it. "

Idk, I think that if they want my organs that are left over they can have them but I told DH they need to do everything possible before he even considers letting them actually do it. I think your next of kin has to agree to everything as well so they can't just do it without your family's consent.

Quoting bbbt:" I don't think it's very common. One or two shady doctors might have done it to save a relative or friend, but for the most part doctors genuinely want to help their patients."

That's the way I see it. I think we will always happy good and bad people no matter what.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" See, I am debating this right now. I'd like to be one but I don't want doctors to give up on me too easily for it. "

That's how I feel.

Quoting C's Mommy +1:" I've heard the same thing. A GOOD doctor will fight for everyones life the same."

Exactly!!

we are with the exact same person. My SO isn't one for the EXACT same reason. I am. I'm not sure if it's right or wrong but I understand why they feel this way. His cousin's 20 yr old fiance was injured in a freak accident that put him on life support. He had swelling on the brain and wasn't really going to be much of anything if he lived. They decided to let him pass and use all of his healthy young organs for others who needed them. I think that was the right choice. I couldn't imagine having to make it but I feel that it was the right one for her family. She can one day tell their little boy that his daddy saved other people's lives.

I feel like if that's how they want to feel, it's their right to choose it so I don't try and change my SO's mind. As to what might happen in the hospital, I could see their theory being true. Doctors can be pretty shady sometimes. Even if we don't want to think of them that way & not all are but there are plenty who are willing to do anything for a little bit of cash.

If that happened I'd like to know why the smurf a first responder or doctor was taking the time to check a license for the organ donor checkmark during an emergency.

Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" Idk, I think that if they want my organs that are left over they can have them but I told DH they need ... [snip!] ... do it. I think your next of kin has to agree to everything as well so they can't just do it without your family's consent."

They actually can, I researched it. Once a doctor considers you brain dead they do not have to wait for anyone to get your organs. I read of a few cases that patients who were considered brain dead came back to life, that is a little scary.

Never saw a point to having it on a card when they will ask your family if they would like to donate your organs if something were to happen. Not sure if they can just take them if it's on your card or if they still need consent.