re: Poof!

I literally feel upset for you. That is just not ok. I'm not sure I could marry someone like that.

Agree what a prick. it's so immature he needs to do half cleaning if y'all both work. I'd go bang a pot over his snoring ass

That's so wrong. Why can't he clean? OP I hope you rethink you choice to spend the rest of your life with that.

Quoting Kallee's Momma!:" I wouldnt touch it. I would be out before he could blink. I am very sorry this happened but I would be ... [snip!] ... before getting married. He is an ass. Has he ever done or said anything like this before or is he starting this outta the blue?"

He's done and said some rude and hateful things before, but never anything like this. Not even close.

I would have flipped out and left that is not the way someone should treat someone they loved I would have walked out with my kids and said I wont be back till HES cleaned that smurf up.

This made me so sad   My husband was reading over my shoulder apparently and is now upset because "That's not how you treat a woman, no matter what happened." -His words. You deserve better than that. Personally, I just want to slap your SO for doing that to you.

I'd be tipping the goddamn mattress over and not letting him sleep until he cleans that smurf up. Or taking the kids elsewhere for a couple of days until he decides to be an adult and not some spoiled smurf teenager.

It's time to go, love. That was BEYOND disrespectful and rude and abusive and completely uncalled for. There is NO way in hell that that behavior is EVER acceptable. ESPECIALLY with you being sick. And it's a partnership. If you both work, then you both need to clean the house. Nu uh. He's wrong here. 100%.

Out ... get out now ... this is only going to get worse and you know it.

I've started crying again over all your responses. I was so worried I was upset over nothing. I had started to think that maybe I SHOULD have cleaned more this week.

Thank you for your support. It means so much to me right now. I'm seriously rethinking our relationship. I left him one time already for smurf like this, but nothing this extreme. I thought he was going to change.  

He sounds controlling like he treats you like a kid but then acts like a kid too ... My I would of slapped him in the face and chopped his nuts of if I came home to that.... You both work so you both should contribute to house cleaning too! What a dick!!

This makes me so sad for you and mad at him. What a smurfing dick. You could do SOOO much better. You both work full time yet it's only your job to clean?? Tell his lazy ass to do some damn house work too!!

You were a lot more calm than I would of been.

Quoting Minion:" I've started crying again over all your responses. I was so worried I was upset over nothing. I had started ... [snip!] ... relationship. I left him one time already for smurf like this, but nothing this extreme. I thought he was going to change.  "

Seriously girl just leave. do it for you and baby girl. You don't deserve that and no child deserves to see that and think it is okay. It may not be physical abuse but it surely is emotional abuse!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I've started crying again over all your responses. I was so worried I was upset over nothing. I had started ... [snip!] ... relationship. I left him one time already for smurf like this, but nothing this extreme. I thought he was going to change.  "</blockquote>




Even if you DIDN'T clean, YOU are not the reason he did that. He's got something serious going on in that head of his. This is NOT your fault.

Please... PLEASE, do not clean that up. What he did was abusive. You don't treat people like that. I understand losing your temper and saying/doing something you regret, but he was at it ALL DAY and hasn't let up... That's like he's trying to manipulate and control you, and that is emotional abuse, IMO.

In a marriage, when one person has slacked a little due to being sick or otherwise indisposed, you help because you LOVE them. Because you WANT to make their life a little easier. What he did is not love, I'm sorry, but it was hateful to the core. You REALLY don't deserve that at all.