SOs BFFs GF has a crush on my SO
Very obvious she flirts gazes into his eyes and is constantly trying to take his attention off me or tries to act like im a bitch when me and SO are being smart asses to each other. She seriously tries to defend him when we are just messing with each other
She talks smurf about me as a person parent and about our relationship
She has tried more than ones to break us up. long story
And she tries to get him to go to her house while her bf is at work
Is it wrong for me to not want her around and not want him around her?

If you trust your SO, let it go.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" If you trust your SO, let it go."

i do i just feel like i shouldnt have to put up with it. and it does make me worry that she tries to get him to go over there when her bf goes to work. i just feel like shes crossed the line and needs to stop or just stop coming around

Quoting KTSKDR:" i do i just feel like i shouldnt have to put up with it. and it does make me worry that she tries to ... [snip!] ... to go over there when her bf goes to work. i just feel like shes crossed the line and needs to stop or just stop coming around"

Then tell your SO, to tell his friend, to have his girlfriend back off.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Then tell your SO, to tell his friend, to have his girlfriend back off."

he has his friend wont say anything to her though hes too worried about what shes gonna say if he tells her she needs to chill. SO has said something to her before but it just made it worse

You're not wrong, but I wouldn't worry about it unless she was disresecting me

Quoting I'm actually a virgin:" You're not wrong, but I wouldn't worry about it unless she was disresecting me"

oh she does A LOT. Shes even gone as far as trying to talk about my son. I say try bcuz she was trying to talk smurf about his hair. She was like why is he still bald hes too old for that is something wrong with him. Like really hes not bald hes got hair its just really light

If it were me, the next time she said anything disrespectful about anything involving me, my relationship or parenting, I would tell her like it is. If she has the kahunas to talk bad about me and my life in front of my SO/DH, she can sit her ass down and be told like it is. But I would also do it in front of other people, this way it couldn't be my word against hers and she make a big lie out of what was said. She is being disrespectful of you. And if it didn't stop, I wouldn't have my SO around her at all.

Quoting KTSKDR:" oh she does A LOT. Shes even gone as far as trying to talk about my son. I say try bcuz she was trying ... [snip!] ... is he still bald hes too old for that is something wrong with him. Like really hes not bald hes got hair its just really light"

If it makes you feel any better, it took my 4 yr old almost 2 years to grow a decent amount of fuzz.

Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" If it makes you feel any better, it took my 4 yr old almost 2 years to grow a decent amount of fuzz. "

lol oh i dont care and honestly he has a lot of hair its just very light and it just lays flat cuz its so silky. when i wash it i notice how thick it really is lol. but i really wanna say something to her but SO wants me to keep my mouth shut. Its been a while since shes been around but i thinks its bcuz i told SO that I couldnt hold it in any longer and if she is rude to me or says anything uncalled for to me i will say something back. That was probably 3 months ago but then yesterday he wanted me to go hang out with them and i was just like hell no im not spending my vday with her.

Honestly. I would of already got in her face and told her to back the smurf up, I'm not the one. And I would tell SO to make it clear to her she needs to act appropriately. Then completely separate myself from them. People need to smurfing understand boundaries.

I would not invite her to my home anymore and avoid her, just be pleasant when you have to be around her. Be the bigger person.