labor, delivery and breastfeeding...oh my

hello all you other moms and moms to be. as i get closer and closer to my due date im starting to fret a little. im half way there now. ive read quite a few things that sound just down right scary about child birth... and i wasnt sure if anyone else felt the same way about it. im truly terrified. ive read that the baby could tear your lady parts up pretty good. and most women need stitches to fix it. and that just sounds uncomfortable. but i think what i am most terrified of is having problems with delivery. ive had a nightmare of losing the baby and passing away myself. and then what would my husband have left in this world? im sure its just from anxiety, but that would be the worst thing i could ever imagine. breastfeeding isnt so bad to think about but im sure its painful. and im sure sure if ill be able to produce enough milk. my little sister had a very hard time with this as well. anyone else who had or is having the same worries? what did you do to help ease them? thanks for taking time out to read and help. have a good day all

Just think... Women have been doing this from the beginning of time. You've got this.

Everybody's birth story is different. Birth is scary because you will never know how it will go. But women have been doing for, well, forever now. I have had 3 babies and none have them have been terrible births. My 1st did tear my lady parts some and I did have some stiches. But with time and good care they healed quickly and without a lot of pain. Breastfeeding can be challenging but with proper education and finding people who can help it can be done and is super rewarding. Take a deep breathe Momma, you are going to do great!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" Just think... Women have been doing this from the beginning of time. You've got this. "</blockquote>




  this! I was 18 when I had my first, I went completely natural, no drugs whatsoever. Tearing can happen, and most women do. Some get lucky and don't. I tore, and honestly I didn't even notice it. Although afterwards having to lay there with my legs sprawled open while a doctor was stitching me wasn't very fun..lol. Not really painful, but more uncomfortable. I had one small complication with my delivery because his heart rate started dropping and they used some suction cup thingy to help pull him out as I pushed. I'm due with baby number two on July 2nd, and the thing I'm most worried about this time is that I will be unsuccessful breastfeeding again. I'm hoping the 3 months I managed to do it with my son helps me with having that experience and learning from what I did or didn't do. You will be fine though! Hundreds of women do it everyday, and have been doing this forever. Just don't stress too much about it   You still have plenty of time until the time comes!

i was talking to my mom about it and she said i was a worry wort. i told her a c-section was sounding kinda nice. yes it would leave a scar but i could always get the babies hand and foot prints tattooed over it. ( always thought that was such a cute idea ) i think the nightmare has got me the most worked up. it just seemed so real. ive been having crazy nightmares ever since 14 weeks or so.

Quoting Brittanie N Michael Felix:" i was talking to my mom about it and she said i was a worry wort. i told her a c-section was sounding ... [snip!] ... nightmare has got me the most worked up. it just seemed so real. ive been having crazy nightmares ever since 14 weeks or so."

A c-section has a higher mother AND infant death rate.

Dying during childbirth.. The baby dying.. thinking how much it will hurt.. thinking how much breastfeeding will hurt. Yes, I think EVERY mother or soon to be mother has thought about all of these things at one time or another. Just try to think of the positives, so that you KNOW you can do it. The more confidence you have, the less likely you'll end up with a c-section or something. Believe me. Been there, done that with my 1st. With my 2nd, I had a vbac at home.. so passing away during childbirth went through my mind more than once during that pregnancy. But I knew that I could do it! So with every contraction, I just focused on breathing through them & willed my daughter to come out so I could see her. 16 hours of labor, 45 mins of pushing (which didn't even seem like that long of pushing).. And she came out. I tore a lot, because her hand was by her head. The tearing didn't phase me. The stitches were uncomfortable, but you're going to be a little sore for a little while no matter what. Either way, that experience was 10 x better than my c-section recovery, because I was up walking to the bathroom right afterward, before even being stitched up! Did breastfeeding hurt?.. Yup, for the first few weeks after getting my milk in, but I'm glad my kids are that much healthier & smarter from sticking with it! And if you ever have trouble producing enough milk, breastfeeding more is the best thing for making more. Also oatmeal helps, or mother's milk tea! Everyone's labor, birth, and breastfeeding experiences are different. Just KNOW that you can do it all if you set your mind to it. Women were made to have babies.. And boobs were made for feeding them!  

Quoting Brittanie N Michael Felix:" i was talking to my mom about it and she said i was a worry wort. i told her a c-section was sounding ... [snip!] ... nightmare has got me the most worked up. it just seemed so real. ive been having crazy nightmares ever since 14 weeks or so."

So you would rather have staples in your stomach to close a 6 to 8 inch incision? Instead of probably 2 or 3 stiches? That is crazy! C-sections are so much more dangerous than people realize. It is a major surgery and the risk of infection is much greater than a vaginal birth. I'm not trying to scare you, i'm really not. But if you are worrying do more reseach and become more informed of your options. In my opinion a c-section should be a last resort.

Quoting Mitchell.family.of.5:" So you would rather have staples in your stomach to close a 6 to 8 inch incision? Instead of probably ... [snip!] ... you are worrying do more reseach and become more informed of your options. In my opinion a c-section should be a last resort."

This     Not to mention you are in horrible recovering pain for WEEKS after a c-section, instead of just days!

i never said a c-section was the best or ever better than natural birth. at the moment it sounded way easier than pushing. my mom had a c-section with me and she said about the staples. suddenly neither sounded much like fun. but she said after he is out and in my arms i wouldnt even remember the pain. i know in my heart i can do it, its just those nightmares have got the best of me.

Quoting Brittanie N Michael Felix:" i never said a c-section was the best or ever better than natural birth. at the moment it sounded way ... [snip!] ... in my arms i wouldnt even remember the pain. i know in my heart i can do it, its just those nightmares have got the best of me."

Believe me, I had both.. & I would much, much, MUCH rather have a natural childbirth. It's normal to have fears that something could go wrong.. Not to mention crazy-real pregnancy dreams! That's what makes us human. You won't really remember the pain. You'll just be so happy he's out!

Quoting Brittanie N Michael Felix:" i never said a c-section was the best or ever better than natural birth. at the moment it sounded way ... [snip!] ... in my arms i wouldnt even remember the pain. i know in my heart i can do it, its just those nightmares have got the best of me."

if you;re scared of dying getting a c-section increases your chances. I am just saying...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brittanie N Michael Felix:</b>" i was talking to my mom about it and she said i was a worry wort. i told her a c-section was sounding ... [snip!] ... nightmare has got me the most worked up. it just seemed so real. ive been having crazy nightmares ever since 14 weeks or so."</blockquote>




You do realize a c-section scar is very low, right above your pubic bone, right? I know the tattoo artist that did my tattoos won't tat over a scar. Not even a stretch mark. So that's probably not a good idea.
& like the other ladies said, your chances of death and infant death are higher with a c-section then a vaginal delivery. We were made to push a baby out, not deliver by c-section (though some women medically need one). You're honestly worrying for nothing......