Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" wow. Yeah... I hope they can get everything under control and get them stable. "I think it's a mixture between something not quite functioning right in their heads, coupled with the fact that the 4 year old was abused by his father. She was also abused by his father, but didn't know he was abusing the child until the older child began behaving violently towards the 2 year old who was then a baby. She left, moved states away and began working as a domestic violence advocate at a women's shelter.
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I think it's a mixture between something not quite functioning right in their heads, coupled with the ... [snip!] ... me just earlier today that I'm the only friend she has that doesn't use her, who's truly her friend. I can't do that to her."
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" The thing is though, I still don't feel well. Grocery shopping takes 2 hours vs. the 30 minutes it'll ... [snip!] ... as well, it'll take me the night just to make the laundry detergent to start using because I don't have a food processor."
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Yeah. That is good. Is the little boy going to therapy for it? That is good, it really sounds like she needs a good friend like you to help her out and listen to her. "Yeah, she's had him in therapy for a while now and she's helping him to work through all that. She's filing for legal custody this month to protect the boys, I helped her get the paper work lol.
Quoting Jeronimo:" Well... lets be honest here... your relationship w/her is a particular inconvenience for him. That's ... [snip!] ... about being admirable. Isn't there someway for you to interact w/your friend and her kids w/out him "having" to be present?"That's exactly what I've been trying to do. He goes into work in a few hours, so my plan was that my check will be here by the time we need to leave, I run to the bank, deposit it, take him to work, get the laundry supplies/house hold items with her help, come back, cook dinner and get the kids fed, we chill for a bit, then I have to leave and pick him up from work and we'll part ways.
Quoting Jeronimo:" Well... I guess your driving point that you have to make to him is that he wont have to deal w/her kids... ... [snip!] ... that you understand he doesn't want to be around her kids and you are working around it to not have it be a bother for him."Me and her have done it for a while lol. A lot of times when he goes to work I'll go to her house and hang out since she only lives like, 1/4th of a mile from where he works. The last time we intentionally hung out with him around was Christmas and he voiced that he didn't like it, so we started trying to plan around it.