re: Newborn sleep PLEASE help!!

I swaddled until 5 months. It made all the difference for my LO's. Their random arm movements often do wake them up when they are out.

Quoting twingals:" I swaddled until 5 months. It made all the difference for my LO's. Their random arm movements often do wake them up when they are out."

She said he hates to be swaddled.   I can't even imagine. My babies needed to be swaddled also or they couldn't sleep.

I see people saying their baby hates swaddling a lot. It may be true, but I did read this book that I found helpful to me called "The Happiest Baby on the Block" and this is his theory on it:

Q: My 1-week-old baby struggles when I swaddle her… she seems to want her hands up. Do some kids just not like the wrapping?
A: Swaddling is the key to soothing a crying baby and helping your baby sleep… that’s why parents around the world have been doing it for thousands of years!
However, you may be fooled into thinking your baby doesn’t want to be wrapped because her initial response is to struggle against it. But don’t worry, Babies don’t have great arm control and often flail about when they have colic. Too many parents think that their baby’s struggle means that they need freedom. You may not want to be snugly wrapped, but most likely you wouldn’t like to live in a uterus either.
Of course, babies don’t really need freedom (they have so little of it in the womb). What new babies really need is security and reassurance and that is exactly what swaddling gives them.
Remember, babies are “snug as a bug” in the womb, and they love it. If your baby struggles against the blanket, just do the other S’s and you will quickly turn on her calming reflex. Being snuggly wrapped will then keep her soothed, prevent her from flailing and upsetting herself again…and keep her from accidentally rolling onto her stomach.
Sorry if too much info and not helpful... just thought its an interesting alternative take on the initial struggles of most nb's when swaddled.

Quoting twingals:" I see people saying their baby hates swaddling a lot. It may be true, but I did read this book that I ... [snip!] ... info and not helpful... just thought its an interesting alternative take on the initial struggles of most nb's when swaddled."

That makes a very good point. Sometimes you just have to keep at it until they calm down.

Agreed on the swaddling. Keep trying! My son hated it (or seemed to!) but I held him and calmed him and let him nurse while swaddled, then laid him down and he didn't startle awake!!! He stayed asleep better! I just had to swaddle before I nursed at bedtime.

Quoting Kairi's Mama!:" My daughter was the exact same way. Thats how we ended up fully co sleeping because she would absolutely ... [snip!] ... that your LO starts to transition well into sleeping without being directly in bed with you guys. Good luck mama you can do it!"

i am so sorry for your loss....

i will try to swaddle!! TY all.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" I'm so sorry for your loss. <3  "

Thank you. It was the hardest thing to happen to me & my DH... Currently TTC our rainbow.

My daughter was the same when she was young, she hated her bassinet as soon as I laid her in it her eyes would pop right open. I figured out she didn't like laying flat on her back, so I started putting her in her swing which sat up a little and was more form fitting so she felt like she was being held, she slept in her swing for many nights cause it was the only way I could get her to sleep. Also maybe you could trying buying a moby wrap or something similar so your baby an be with you but your hands will be free.