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My 5 year old picks up my 1 year old niece ALL the time. We've been going through this same thing. Her youngest sister is 5 months old and she's tried to pick her up a few times also. I just tell her (and our 4 year old) that they can't pick them up because if they drop them they'll get hurt. I just make sure I put their sister in a play pen or bouncy (buckled) so I know they can't pick her up. Just give it some time, she's only 3/4 so she really doesn't understand WHY she can't pick him up or that she could hurt him. Be patient and let her hold him with you around A LOT, it seems to help with them trying to do it on their own ;)

My daughter was the same way... still is.
Now she thinks it's funny to attempt the stairs while carrying her sister. I give her crap alllll the time. She is 4.5 and the little one is 2.

Quoting Kimber-lily:" My daughter was the same way... still is. Now she thinks it's funny to attempt the stairs while carrying her sister. I give her crap alllll the time. She is 4.5 and the little one is 2. "

UGH! This doesnt' give me hope! I wish I knew what to do. I surely don't want to be spanking her, as it's completely pointless and doesn't teach them anything- but seriously, what the hell do I do? It's out of hand. I don't want him to get hurt but it's not realistic at all to think I won't have to leave the room for even a second. I can't have him on my hip 24/7, and if I put him in a bouncer/pack n play he will just scream. He hates being confined.

Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" UGH! This doesnt' give me hope! I wish I knew what to do. I surely don't want to be spanking her, as ... [snip!] ... I can't have him on my hip 24/7, and if I put him in a bouncer/pack n play he will just scream. He hates being confined."

Wear him? I wear her only because she still wants comfort and loves being close to me still (and I secretly love it too) ;)

Quoting ~Mommyof3girls~:" Wear him? I wear her only because she still wants comfort and loves being close to me still (and I secretly love it too) ;)"

I'm not wearing him to pee or make dinner over a hot stove. Lol.

I need a solution to teaching my daughter... my son isn't the problem... I have no idea what to do to get her to understand why she can't pick him up and have her listen. It's ridiculous that I have to gate her off from the boys' room just because I can't trust her not to put him in danger.

I know she doesn't WANT to hurt him... she just, for some reason, refuses to listen. She listens to damn-near anything else I say and is quite well-behaved but this is one thing that she just will not listen to.

Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" I'm not wearing him to pee or make dinner over a hot stove. Lol. I need a solution to teaching my ... [snip!] ... She listens to damn-near anything else I say and is quite well-behaved but this is one thing that she just will not listen to."

Wear him on your back when cooking? There's so many carriers to choose from that it'd be easy to put him up/down lol And she absolutely doesn't want to hurt him, he's just changing and doing more that she is in-tune to it. Thinks she's helping mommy by doing it. That's what my oldest (5) says. Give them one on one time (sitting on the floor in the living room, etc) so you can supervise and let her know the do's and don't's of baby. She'll catch on soon, she's still little and learning.

Quoting ~Mommyof3girls~:" Wear him on your back when cooking? There's so many carriers to choose from that it'd be easy to put ... [snip!] ... etc) so you can supervise and let her know the do's and don't's of baby. She'll catch on soon, she's still little and learning."

All of my kids have plenty of one-on-one time with me. She COMPLETELY understands the "do's and don'ts of baby" but the problem is that she DOES the DONT'S anyways. Lol. I don't know why.

I'm really not interested in baby-wearing. I appreciate your opinion, but my back can't handle a squirming 22-pound baby wiggling around and pulling my hair... nor does he enjoy being in a carrier AT ALL. He is at the stage of just wanting to be independent and run free. If you put him in a carrier, jumper, pack and play or ANYTHING remotely confined he just screams. Plus, again, I really want to better teach HER to leave him be than just avoid the situation by carrying him around. There will be another baby here soon and I can't possibly be carrying them both around at the same time and trying to keep her away. She NEEDS to learn.

Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" All of my kids have plenty of one-on-one time with me. She COMPLETELY understands the "do's and don'ts ... [snip!] ... here soon and I can't possibly be carrying them both around at the same time and trying to keep her away. She NEEDS to learn."

I meant one on one time with baby, should have clarified. Like let her play with him more often, maybe she'll get "bored" and leave him alone more?! Idk. My youngest is 5 months and wearing her is practically the only way I get things done. But she's been sick pretty much constantly since she was born (colds, flu, etc) and wants the closeness. I completely get the hair pulling! She recently started it lol But the only thing I can think of is keep being consistent with what you're doing. She'll get the hint eventually to leave him alone. I'm surprised she still does it as old as he is, my girls (4 and 5) haven't really messed with her in about a month. But they're also in preschool 2 1/2 hours M,T,TH,F every week so maybe that has to do with it?!

Quoting ~Mommyof3girls~:" I meant one on one time with baby, should have clarified. Like let her play with him more often, maybe ... [snip!] ... with her in about a month. But they're also in preschool 2 1/2 hours M,T,TH,F every week so maybe that has to do with it?!"

Both of my kids play with him all of the time. They are very involved with him. I try to praise her for "playing nicely" with him... but she still tries to pick him up and do things she knows she isn't supposed to.