i left him today...

it all started when i wrote to the dr. phil show about my situation. i never thought anything would come of it. they get millions of emails every day ...i was just looking to vent. then come tuesday i get a call back from them. so today they call my hub and he is irrate. told me if i felt we needed help then he'll serve me with divorce papers. went off on me saying I'm the one causing the problems and I ruined valentine's day. annnnd that if i thought things were bad just wait til he got home. he was screaming at the top of his lungs and cussing me out...so i was scared to death of what might happen when he came home i packed a few things of the kids and a change of clothes for me. went to the bank and only took half the money out so i could pay for a hotel for the night til i have more time to figure things out. then my mom dropped me off at his work and i walked in his shop and said HEY IM PICKING UP MY CAR. he just nodded...didnt want to make a scene in front of his co workers. as i backed out he came running up to my car asking what was going on if i was leaving him ect. idk why but i cannot be vocal with him. i cannot tell him yes, no, or how i feel for fear of his reaction. i can DO something but if he questions it...i go quiet. i think this is it. this is the end of my marriage. i just made an apt with a lawyer.....happy smurfing valintines day to me....stuck in a hotel room with 2 babies terrified he's going to come knock on the door. im devestated. why does he have to be this way? why does it have to be like this? i

Oh hunny.. I am so sorry. You are doing the right thing though. I mean, I don't know your situation.. but if you needed to get out, kudos to you for actually doing it. Things will get better.. just keep staying strong <3

  Sorry OP that sound horrible, just make sure you and the babies are safe. Wish all relationships were perfect but unfortunately they are not, Take care of you and the kids and maybe he will change and try to work things out.

I'm so happy you left! I was really scared for you. First thing tomorrow morning to down to the courthouse and file for a restraining order and sole custody of the kids. As for the hotel, ask to be in the back of the hotel where your car can not be seen from the street, remove anything distinguishing from the inside and park backed in. Do not open the door for anyone and tell the front deal to deny you're being there, it wouldn't hurt to give them a picture or description of him as well

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" I'm so happy you left! I was really scared for you. First thing tomorrow morning to down to the courthouse ... [snip!] ... and tell the front deal to deny you're being there, it wouldn't hurt to give them a picture or description of him as well"

Yikes =/ sounds like things were really bad..

<<<HUGS>>>

You KNOW you are doing the right thing! Don't let him scare you into thinking you have to stay. What he's done to you is wrong in so many ways...smh. Your babies are your valentine's   Make the best out of the smurffy situation HE put you in. Do NOT go back there with him there...if you go back to get the rest of your stuff do it while he's working. I thought you were going to stay with your parents? With the situation having the extra people around to help protect and you and your kids will be extremely helpful. Remember you aren't just doing this for your safety but those babies as well!!! Stay strong Mama <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting BRiATCH ♥:</b>" Yikes =/ sounds like things were really bad.."</blockquote>




IMO yes, very very bad

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:</b>" I'm so happy you left! I was really scared for you. First thing tomorrow morning to down to the courthouse ... [snip!] ... and tell the front deal to deny you're being there, it wouldn't hurt to give them a picture or description of him as well"</blockquote>



Oh yes all of this is well  

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" I'm so happy you left! I was really scared for you. First thing tomorrow morning to down to the courthouse ... [snip!] ... and tell the front deal to deny you're being there, it wouldn't hurt to give them a picture or description of him as well"

i will go show them his picture right now. i never thought of that. she did tell me they cant give my name out even if he calls...they have to kno my room number to be transferred. i told him im at my parents.

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" it all started when i wrote to the dr. phil show about my situation. i never thought anything would come ... [snip!] ... he's going to come knock on the door. im devestated. why does he have to be this way? why does it have to be like this? i "

I'm so sorry you're going through that hun!! I've been there and honestly it's probably best! In my experience, it only got worse and eventually led to domestic violence. First with me and eventually with our daughter. That's when I left. I always wish I'd have left sooner, like when the controlling started... I would continue to seek help from the Dr. Phil show though, because they can probably help you get moving in the right direction to be on your own and not fall into this type of situation again!

I read your post yesterday. I'm really glad you made this decision. I'm sorry it must have been a really hard choice to make but just know that your doing the right thing for you and the kids. You will pick yourself up from this. Stay positive.

Im sorry mama <3 You can PM me anytime. I am glad that you left.

I've seen a couple of your threads, and I am VERY happy to see you left him! Good luck, hon. And know you DO deserve better than that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" I'm so sorry you're going through that hun!! I've been there and honestly it's probably best! In my experience, ... [snip!] ... they can probably help you get moving in the right direction to be on your own and not fall into this type of situation again!"</blockquote>



If you read her last thread, IMO it's worse than domestic violence.

he keeps telling me im punishing the kids for not letting them see their daddy...but im terrified if i let him see them he will take them from me