A baby shower for baby # 2

Hi everyone. I have a few very important questions for you all and I was hoping for some advise. I am pregnant with our second baby which is a boy, I already have a daughter. But I would really like a baby shower for this baby considering I never had one for my daughter who btw is 7 years old. I don't really know many people and getting a guest list together is practically impossible due to the fact I would only invite about 7-10 people in total. So I guess what I'm getting at is: Should I have a shower? If so where would/should I have it? Who should throw it? Who is normally invited to these things? Who pays for it? What is the point of a diaper cake? and last but not least when should I have one? My husband wants to give me one cuz we never had one, but I know he isn't suppose to throw it. What should I do? Thank you all in advance!!!

I would wait and see if someone wants to throw you one, like your mom, an aunt, sister, cousin, etc.... I wouldn't throw one for myself. And if someone is throwing a party for you, you don't really need to worry about the details. You know?

I didn't want one for my second child, and politely declined two offers from people to throw me one, and my coworkers threw me a surprise one anyways.

I had one thrown for me with all three. But the first was my big one. The other two were dinner with close friends and family with gifts.

Thank you for your responces. My mom died before my daughter was 2 and I dn't have any sisters. My dad and stepmom have been buying things to help out and it is VERY much appreciated, though I just wanted some people to come and have fun with. You know. If noone throws one then what? I just feel hurt that I never hd one with my first and probably won't with this one either. Also, this is going to be our last child, so don't know what to do. BLAH!  

Another option, if no one ends up throwing you a shower, is after your LO comes you and your husband could host a meet and greet. You would have more control over that one. Your friends would still come and have fun with you, but the baby would be there too! The only down side to it, is you wouldn't want to put a lot of pressure on yourself after baby comes and stress yourself out.

I threw my own shower. My mum organised the food and I organised the guest list and the games. If its what you want and no one is throwing you one just do it.

I was 18 at the time so my fiends wouldn't have had a clue how to throw one