What would you do?

I really hate living in Ny, I have always wanted to move to Florida and was going to until I found out I was pregnant because I didn't want to take LO away from her family. My boyfriend really wants to move there too, he says he has more job opportunities there for what he wants to do. I hate the weather here so much, it's so cold and I can't stand it. I go to Florida at least twice a year and I'm so happy when I'm there, I could easily see myself living there. But I am very close with my family especially my mom and grandma and it would kill them if I were to move away with my daughter. My boyfriend says its stupid of me to let them determine my life, but I want them a big part of my daughters life, like he doesn't get it and he gets so mad. And the other night my mom said to me, I'm so scared he's going to brainwash you and take you and her away from me. That made me feel so bad for wanting to move away but I want to live there so bad. I just wish they would move there but my parents won't, because they both have jobs for the state and no other college and they have made it very far in their work and aren't event close to retiring they are only in their early forties. And my dad is like in love with Ny so I know they won't move and it makes me so depressed I don't know what to do.

I moved from FL to NY a year ago and I hate it here. As soon as this one is born im out of here. I would move if I were you. When your family comes to visit they will see how much happier you are.

I am in the same boat. I hate the cold and snow and I want to move soooo bad. I don't want to take the kids away from teir family though. Their dad said he would approve us moving but I think grandparents are important. My kids have seen their grandparents almost every day of their lives and it would be mean I think to take that away. My husband wants to leave too and doesn't have any real ties keeping him here bc he doesn't care if he leaves his family.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BryarWoods:</b>" I moved from FL to NY a year ago and I hate it here. As soon as this one is born im out of here. I would move if I were you. When your family comes to visit they will see how much happier you are. "</blockquote>



They know how happy it makes me already, like just from visiting there they know how badly I want to move there. But my family is so in love with my daughter, it would really hurt them if I moved, I don't know if I could do that to them, just thinking about it makes me want to cry.

They can still skype with you & call you & receive pictures. If you want to move, then you do it. I live in AL & my parents live in TN & FL. They still get regular pictures off facebook. They both call me often. You need to decide what you want to do. Take everyone elses opinions out of the mix. if I chose to move then i'd do it. No one else is raising my child for me so they have no right to even slightly dictate where I live

Edit: I am very family oriented & so is SO. I grew up in a very large family & so did he. We love our families but if we were miserable where we were then we would move. I refuse to raise my child in a depressed surrounding where he constantly sees me unhappy

<blockquote><b>Quoting one of each 4 me:</b>" I am in the same boat. I hate the cold and snow and I want to move soooo bad. I don't want to take the ... [snip!] ... away. My husband wants to leave too and doesn't have any real ties keeping him here bc he doesn't care if he leaves his family."</blockquote>




Yeah that's exactly how SO is, he only has his parents here anyway, and family isn't that important to him, but very important to me. It's just so annoying living here I'm so sick of it!