re: Breastfeeing causes preference of parent?

Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:" Oh my gosh, that reminds me of when my husband had a beard. He started growing it when our daughter ... [snip!] ... he was able to grow it out. It was LONG. He shaved it just before work, and it scared the smurf out of our daughter bahahahahaha"

Lol kids are funny like that. My mom always tells a story about my brother being scared of her. She had left hair curlers on one night, he woke up, so she went to get him. Only he started screaming louder when he saw her, calling for "mama." My Dad had to get him, while my Mom took the curlers out. It was the only way he would go to our Mom.

babies like the person they spend the most time with...I mean, if you see someones face 12 hours a day straight and then someone else comes out of nowhere and starts trying to do the things you did with the other person and you had no clue how to connect that "this is mom, her job is to take care of me, but that's dad his job is to go out and make money and then come home and take care of me"...

DH had no real bond with LO when he was a little baby...LO would want his momma ALL THE TIME, now that he's 3 and can understand and interact, he loves his dad..he loves going out with his daddy and playing...

DD wasn't like that she only wanted me when she was hungry and her daddy the rest of the time until 13 months. Now she's 17 months and she's always wanting me she wants nothing to do with DH.

Quoting Blythe.:" I think the prefer the one they are around the most. DD always prefers SO for anything. They are together 24//7"

That would make sense then. My husband works full time and is at school when he's not working so she doesn't see him near as much as me. I do all the feedings (minus maybe 1 feeding of a pumped bottle a day sometimes), diaper changes and bath time. So maybe she just doesn't know him as well as she knows me. I hope it's just a phase that she'll grow out of. I know it hurts his feelings!

Quoting Supafly★:" DS wants me all the time no matter who he's with. But then again I'm the food, the cuddler, the rocker ... [snip!] ... the cuddler, the rocker and the singer all in one. Plus I'm around him 24/7. When he wants to play he goes to his big brother. "

Sounds like my situation. Even when we go visit my MIL she fusses with her. She has offered to watch her a few times to give me and my husband a break and I just can't do it because I'm afraid she'll fuss the whole time.

Quoting Clk:" Oh yeah they both love his beard, it's just so different from my hairless face. As newborns both of them ... [snip!] ... As newborns both of them did try to latch onto his nipples lol. If I didn't produce the milk not sure stick with me at all.  "

He he my DD loved beards and any man with a beard was greeted with huge smiles for ages until she gradually got better sight and realised beard didnt always equal crazy play time and daddy snuggles!

Whilst I was BF DH did almost everything else when he was home so no BFdoesnt make them favour one parent over the other its a stupid myth and wants squashing, there are a trillion ways to bond with a baby and feeding them is a fraction of it.

Quoting Thunderchunk:" Sounds like my situation. Even when we go visit my MIL she fusses with her. She has offered to watch ... [snip!] ... watch her a few times to give me and my husband a break and I just can't do it because I'm afraid she'll fuss the whole time."

Same situation with my mom. My oldest preferred my mom over anyone and my youngest hardly wants anything to do with her. I feel bad for my mom - she loves babies.

Quoting Mrs.O!:" babies like the person they spend the most time with...I mean, if you see someones face 12 hours a day ... [snip!] ... THE TIME, now that he's 3 and can understand and interact, he loves his dad..he loves going out with his daddy and playing..."

That makes a lot of sense. We formula fed our son (he's 3 1/2) and my husband had a connection with him from the get go. I guess because we split up the feedings and he wasn't working as much so my son saw us equally. This time around, my husband doesn't get home until late at night and barely gets to see her so it's completely different!

Quoting Supafly★:" Same situation with my mom. My oldest preferred my mom over anyone and my youngest hardly wants anything to do with her. I feel bad for my mom - she loves babies. "

It kills me because everyone except for me thinks she's "bad baby" but she's not for me! Just everyone else lol. She's an angel all day but if anyone else tries to hold her she cries. I don't know what to do.

Quoting Thunderchunk:" It kills me because everyone except for me thinks she's "bad baby" but she's not for me! Just everyone ... [snip!] ... for me! Just everyone else lol. She's an angel all day but if anyone else tries to hold her she cries. I don't know what to do."

You don't have to do anything, woman. She is still a brand new baby, it's a biological norm for her to want her mama around her 24/7. Soon enough she will be bonding with everyone else.  

Quoting Thunderchunk:" That makes a lot of sense. We formula fed our son (he's 3 1/2) and my husband had a connection with ... [snip!] ... This time around, my husband doesn't get home until late at night and barely gets to see her so it's completely different!"

yeah, and people forget that babies bond differently..it's not because they prefer one over the other it's because they get used to seeing your face and then throwing someone else's face in can confuse them!

Quoting glowinthedark:" You don't have to do anything, woman. She is still a brand new baby, it's a biological norm for her to want her mama around her 24/7. Soon enough she will be bonding with everyone else.  "

I sure hope so!!