Quoting Vile Tramp:" I would probably agree to go to counseling with him, but make sure it's known, you are going to support ... [snip!] ... back to him will do more damage than help, you already know what you have to do, if for nothing else, for your own sanity."I agree with this 100%. Go to counseling for resolution, but don't go back into the relationship if you don't feel that it is right for you.
Quoting skwey:" Those are typical "abuser" things to do. They tell you everything you want to hear (I'll go to counseling, ... [snip!] ... have you, I might as well kill myself) and make it seem like it's your fault. Have you ever seen a power and control wheel?"