so embarrassed... (sex post)

But I can not have an O with my SO. But I can get one uheem alone . Weve tried clit vibrators didnt work. Hes eaten me out lots before and during sex didnt work. Wve tried lube didnt work. Weve tried many different condoms nothing helps. Its like Im always right about to get there when i start feeling liked chaffed in that area . Even though Im WET as HELL. And then the pain from the chaffing over powers the pleasure and I lose the feeling. I want so badly to have one with him and he wants me to too. When we dont use a condom it doesnt start hurting but SO cums to quick for me to get off. What do we do? 

I wish I could help. I have the "O's" with DH all the time but they just happen.

Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" I wish I could help. I have the "O's" with DH all the time but they just happen."

maybe im trying too hard or something. it just gets me upset cuz i love him and im so extremely attracted to him but he feels bad cuz he thinks its his fault

have him watch you get yourself off. Teach him how you do it and have him do the same.

The only thing I can think that might help is to give him a BJ a little while before having sex so he won't cum so fast during sex and you have longer to try? I do that sometimes, otherwise DH is a minute man, lol. But after a BJ he lasts a lot longer

Quoting Amanda.M:" have him watch you get yourself off. Teach him how you do it and have him do the same."

never thought to do this

Watching. I'm in the same boat.

So, how is it that you're able to have one yourself? I was in the same boat at one time. I cannot seem to have one from straight intercourse, but no problem with clitoral stimulation.

So, I work it out where I can get access to that area while we're having sex.. the best position that works best for us is from behind. I have total access to do what I need & he likes the deep sensation of it.

Just experiment and find out what works!

Relax!  

I think you need to stop thinking about the 'goal' and enjoy spending time with your SO.

Dont focus on trying, focus on enjoying him.

An orgasm will come, but not if you're tense and trying too hard/thinking too much to make it happen.

Quoting Lady GooGoo™:" The only thing I can think that might help is to give him a BJ a little while before having sex so he ... [snip!] ... sex and you have longer to try? I do that sometimes, otherwise DH is a minute man, lol. But after a BJ he lasts a lot longer"

see with a condom he goes a loooooong time but with out not so much. and we try to keep from not using a condom bcuz thats our birth control and we arent exactly ready for another kid yet but if it happens its not the end of the world you know... why would the condom make me feel like im being rubbed raw?

my dh has never been able to, together for 7 years, but no man has ever given me one... so I don't worry about it. i can use a vibe if I want to. but we still have fun without me Oing

Quoting Daesey:" So, how is it that you're able to have one yourself? I was in the same boat at one time. I cannot seem ... [snip!] ... I have total access to do what I need & he likes the deep sensation of it. Just experiment and find out what works!"

we have trouble with some positions bcuz i have endometriosis so like doggy style hurts me pretty bad. sadly we have to stick to a few simple positions

Quoting Daesey:" So, how is it that you're able to have one yourself? I was in the same boat at one time. I cannot seem ... [snip!] ... I have total access to do what I need & he likes the deep sensation of it. Just experiment and find out what works!"

same here i just do not have a G spot O... clitoris yes.

Quoting KTSKDR:" see with a condom he goes a loooooong time but with out not so much. and we try to keep from not using ... [snip!] ... kid yet but if it happens its not the end of the world you know... why would the condom make me feel like im being rubbed raw?"

Because condoms suck. lol I've never liked condoms, too weird and distracting to me.

Quoting Ecstasy:" Relax!   I think you need to stop thinking about the 'goal' and enjoy spending time with your SO. ... [snip!] ... focus on enjoying him. An orgasm will come, but not if you're tense and trying too hard/thinking too much to make it happen. "

i know i think this might be the problem. hes the only man ive actually enjoyed sex with. and after our son was born it got so much better for some reason