what would you do?

A friend of mine at work, her fiance' is bisexual (not the point really but it would be really weird if I didn't mention it). Her phone had died so they swapped phones for the day, while she had it she noticed that there was a picture of a naked man on there. Not just porn or anything, put an actual text that had been sent.

She sat him down and asked him what had happened, and apparently he had bumped into an ex at the shops. They had exchanged phone numbers to catch up ad the photo had been sent unsolicited, and he had just forgot to delete it.

Personally to me it seems a bit shady, but she seems to think he's telling the truth even though she's being wary.

What would you do in this situation (if your man isn't bi just exchange naked man for naked woman).

He chose not to delete it. That should tell her something.

Quoting -BLT-:" He chose not to delete it. That should tell her something."

that's what I think ... I don't think you can forget to delete something. If I got a photo like that I would delete it straight away.

If she has no reason to think he's not telling the truth, then I'd let it go. DH had an ex that would send him texts and FB messages that said, "I love you and I miss you," multiple times for over a year. He never talked to her. She just sent them because she realized what she missed out on. Maybe his ex feels like that.

Quoting Destiel:" that's what I think ... I don't think you can forget to delete something. If I got a photo like that I would delete it straight away."

  Yeah if I got a pic like that I'd delete it right away and prolly tell DH what happened.

Honestly.. i'd be angry, upset and wouldn't trust DH.

The FIRST THING that i'd do would be to tell DH before i deleted it lol!

I'd think it was the most strange thing ever to be honest  

How can you 'forget' to mention something like that?.. to me its a big deal.

I'd want DH to tell me if it happened to him too.

Quoting Ecstasy:" Honestly.. i'd be angry, upset and wouldn't trust DH. The FIRST THING that i'd do would be to tell DH ... [snip!] ... How can you 'forget' to mention something like that?.. to me its a big deal. I'd want DH to tell me if it happened to him too."

yeah me to ... even if it was just to laugh at how pathetic the other person is

AND apparently he still hasn't deleted it because 'its on the phone he doesn't use that much'

Quoting Destiel:" yeah me to ... even if it was just to laugh at how pathetic the other person is"

 

DH and I are honest about that kind of thing. Like he will tell me if an ex even messages him on fb about something random just to be completely open and honest with me...

Quoting Destiel:" AND apparently he still hasn't deleted it because 'its on the phone he doesn't use that much'"

....DH doesn't use his phone that much either, but if he had a pic of his ex naked you best believe he'd have it deleted.

Quoting Destiel:" yeah me to ... even if it was just to laugh at how pathetic the other person is"

Haha yeah that'd be why i'd call/show DH!

It screams 'desperation' to me lol!

Not using the phone much isn't a reason for not deleting it LOL!!  

It'd seriously take you 2 seconds to delete it once you received it.

Quoting Ecstasy:" Haha yeah that'd be why i'd call/show DH! It screams 'desperation' to me lol! Not using the phone ... [snip!] ... phone much isn't a reason for not deleting it LOL!!   It'd seriously take you 2 seconds to delete it once you received it."

and now he's been missing since she confronted him about it. So since last night.

Quoting Destiel:" AND apparently he still hasn't deleted it because 'its on the phone he doesn't use that much'"

That's not cool. I could see it being forgotten, but once it was brought to attention it needs to be deleted.

I would be pissed. Livid!

umm ya talk about red flag! i'm sorry but you don't just "forget" about that kind of stuff, you either see it and delete it or see it and want to keep it. The only reason why my husband would ever keep a pic like that would be to show me as soon as he could to let me know and delete it in front of me and I would do the same for him. My ex would "forget" to delete things, but he was also cheating on me with the girls...