if you got told

If your 4 year old said that her daycare provider hits her and pointed to her head. I was doing an evaluation and asked her if she has ever hit her she said yeah. And said in her head. And I said was she playing or mad. She said mad. Then I asked if she said anything and she said that she told her smurf. What age do kids start making things up. I told her what would happen if she was lieing. And she says she isn't. What do I do

Start looking into it asap. I think anytime a kid says any abuse is happening it should be looked into.

I would talk to the director unless it is an in home child care. If it is true she would never admit it. If that is the case I would be looking for a different provider.

I would absolutely look into it. Though, I remember being four. I didn't like my Daycare so I constantly told my mom that they were all horribly mean. They weren't. I just wanted to be with my mom more.

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" I would absolutely look into it. Though, I remember being four. I didn't like my Daycare so I constantly ... [snip!] ... my Daycare so I constantly told my mom that they were all horribly mean. They weren't. I just wanted to be with my mom more. "

I can see a kid lying for that reason but still no matter what age it should be looked into and if it turns out the kid is lying well then you go from there but I would rather believe my kid and find out they were lying than not believe them and find out it was true.

Quoting Mommy and daddys angel:" I can see a kid lying for that reason but still no matter what age it should be looked into and if it ... [snip!] ... go from there but I would rather believe my kid and find out they were lying than not believe them and find out it was true."

Absolutely.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy and daddys angel:</b>" Start looking into it asap. I think anytime a kid says any abuse is happening it should be looked into."</blockquote>




How do I look into that. I don't want to accuse her. And if she is lying I dojt want her to be mad at my daughter.

Quoting Morgan marie's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy and daddys angel:</b>" Start looking into it asap. I think ... [snip!] ... How do I look into that. I don't want to accuse her. And if she is lying I dojt want her to be mad at my daughter."

I would assume that a professional care-giver would want to address the issue at hand and get to the bottom of that situation, rather than being mad at a four year old... which isn't productive at all.

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" I would assume that a professional care-giver would want to address the issue at hand and get to the ... [snip!] ... at hand and get to the bottom of that situation, rather than being mad at a four year old... which isn't productive at all. "

Any adult that works professionally with children know that children lie and shouldnt get mad at the child. If nothing comes of the abuse accusation then it would help to try to figure out why your daughter would say that. But I would deffinately talk to the care provider about it. Does she go to daycare with multiple caretakers or is it one person.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" I would assume that a professional care-giver would want to address the issue at hand and get to the ... [snip!] ... at hand and get to the bottom of that situation, rather than being mad at a four year old... which isn't productive at all. "</blockquote>




I just asked her about it.

Quoting Morgan marie's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" I would assume that a professional ... [snip!] ... rather than being mad at a four year old... which isn't productive at all. "</blockquote> I just asked her about it."

Annnd what did she say?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" Annnd what did she say? "</blockquote>




She said she would never do that. She dont know why she would say that and that she was good all day

<blockquote><b>Quoting Morgan marie's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" Annnd what did she say? "</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... "</blockquote> She said she would never do that. She dont know why she would say that and that she was good all day"</blockquote>



That still doesn't jive right with me. I would be pulling her out of her care and finding a new care giver. She won't admit if she is lying. Id rather take my 4 year olds word for it and she was lying than believe the care giver and she was the one lying.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mary Moon*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Morgan marie's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... is lying. Id rather take my 4 year olds word for it and she was lying than believe the care giver and she was the one lying."</blockquote>




My daughter admitted to lying. She said no she didn't hit me. And I asked her why she said that she said she didn't know and shes sorry. Why would she say that? I am not happy with her lying. I think when I adked her if she hit her ever she thought I wanted her to say yes. Or why would I be asking kind of thing.