Id say no only because mold ruins everything! DH and I live with his mom for a bit and she had a mold problem...ruined our couches and other furniture. We were only there for less than 6 months and didn't even have the stuff near the mold. Also living with her we fought almost everyday. It was horrible on mine and DH's relationship mostly because of the cramped space. We moved out and it was like we were honeymooners again.

That's a hard one, it depends on just how much tolerance you have for relatives, lol. I personally have a very low tolerance and high privacy requirements.   Look around and see if you can find any other options that may provide similar financial benefits. Smaller would not be a real issue for me, as you take what you can get, and once you are able to finish school and start your career you can get a larger place. Also, you can have a garden pretty much anywhere, some places you might have to grow everything in pots, but that shouldn't stop you.   I live on the in-laws farm and they are here nearly everyday during the summer. It drives me crazy! We don't have the money to go anywhere else though, so we don't really have a choice in the matter. My kids love being able to see their grandparents everyday though. I would move if we could afford it, hehe, but until he gets a permanent position and I finish school, we'll still be here. Sometimes I feel like we'll never leave this place...we probably won't if he gets a permanent teaching position nearby...sigh...I really hate this house.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting motherofboys:</b>" That's a hard one, it depends on just how much tolerance you have for relatives, lol. I personally have ... [snip!] ... leave this place...we probably won't if he gets a permanent teaching position nearby...sigh...I really hate this house.  "</blockquote>




Honestly there is NOTHING comparable price wise there or here. And DH is a huge smurfing crybaby mama's boy and won't move any farther away from mommy and daddy  

Depends if you are planning on TTC or divorcing.

I've got a few questions. How is that apartment occupied currently if there is mold? Haven't the tenants mentioned something to your in-laws about the mold? I wouldn't want to offend them either, but I wouldn't want my stuff covered in mold either.

And if you stay where you are or go elsewhere, what will you do for a babysitter for school and work?

I think financial/childcare wise, it works. And if you can handle living with them, I say go for it. But you need to have them fix the mold problem. Otherwise it's not really worth it.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" <blockquote><b>Quoting motherofboys:</b>" That's a hard one, it depends on just how ... [snip!] ... wise there or here. And DH is a huge smurfing crybaby mama's boy and won't move any farther away from mommy and daddy  "

lol, my SO does not want to move too far from his parents either. I understand though, his dad is 76 and while still running a tractor and doing far more work than most people his age, he has bad lungs from smoking when he was younger and his health could go from good to horrible with just a bout of pnuemonia. His mother is in excellent health at 73, and she still helps run the farm as well. I think SO just wants to be close to his parents in case something happens to his dad. I understand this and am fully supportive as I have come to deeply care for his parents as if they were my own. That doesn't prevent his dad from seriously getting on my bad nerve though, lmao, the man can be seriously aggravating at times, but his storytelling skills are nothing to turn your nose at. I wish I could tell stories the way he tells them to my kids, he does it without books and straight from his imagination. I even enjoy listening. I was very close to my grandma, and I'm so happy my kids can have a close relationship with their grandparents like I had with mine.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):</b>" I've got a few questions. How is that apartment occupied currently if there is mold? Haven't the tenants ... [snip!] ... handle living with them, I say go for it. But you need to have them fix the mold problem. Otherwise it's not really worth it."</blockquote>




It's DH's elderly cousin with cancer that rents. I don't think she lnows. And if we dont move, I wouldnt be able to go to school/get a job

I would do it ... solely because in the short term sure its a smurffy situation. However in the long run if you go to school you can get a better paying job and then maybe even look at buying your own house. However if you stay where you are where you can't go to school or work, and your SO is stuck in a position with little education ... then that's where you're stuck potentially forever.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I would do it ... solely because in the short term sure its a smurffy situation. However in the long run ... [snip!] ... or work, and your SO is stuck in a position with little education ... then that's where you're stuck potentially forever."</blockquote>



That's how I feel too but at the same time...I just like our privacy. I likr beimg able to walk around naked. I like that we're not sick from mold anymore

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" I would do it ... solely because in the short ... [snip!] ... the same time...I just like our privacy. I likr beimg able to walk around naked. I like that we're not sick from mold anymore"

yeah but if its only for a few years ... you have to make sacrifices to get anywhere in life.

Does the apartment have its own entrance and is it totally separated from your parents? How much extra gas money do you estimate using? How much do you need the extra money? The mold would probably ruin it for me

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha Norman:</b>" Does the apartment have its own entrance and is it totally separated from your parents? How much extra ... [snip!] ... How much extra gas money do you estimate using? How much do you need the extra money? The mold would probably ruin it for me"</blockquote>




If we DID move there I would insist on a new vehicle. One with better mileage.

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha Norman:</b>" Does the apartment have its own entrance ... [snip!] ... probably ruin it for me"</blockquote> If we DID move there I would insist on a new vehicle. One with better mileage."

get an i20 like MEEEEEEE. It costs me $40 a fortnight to fill up and I work 40 mins away.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" get an i20 like MEEEEEEE. It costs me $40 a fortnight to fill up and I work 40 mins away."</blockquote>




What is that?

Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" get an i20 like MEEEEEEE. It costs me $40 a fortnight to fill up and I work 40 mins away."</blockquote> What is that?"