Quoting A is Me:" Sounds like you'd just like for him to put done actions behind the words he says. Totally understandable. ... [snip!] ... Totally understandable. Have y'all considered counseling? Having an unbiased third party can really help y'all talk this out."
Quoting Mommy*Allie*:" I'm gonna start with, have you seriously sat down and spoke with him about your expectations from him? ... [snip!] ... a gradual change. Then every couple weeks talk about where the progress is going and what else you can do to make it better. "