can you be raped by your husband?

this past saturday morning i was sleeping on my stomach in just a t shirt and my husband yanked the covers off me and started having sex. i told him to stop because it hurt and i had to pee really bad but he kept on. he was on top of me from behind holding my arm and pulling my hair. after i was in pain all day long but he just took it as a normal sex event.....is it possible to be raped by your husband? or even is this rape

Absolutely. Wow. I am so so sorry 

If you told him no and he kept going then it is considered rape.

Yes is it very much possible. You still have will power even if you are married and its our husband. You don't lose that power once you sign those papers.

I'm sorry this happened to you.  

Its rape if you said stop.  

Yes its called spousal rape. Just because you are married doesnt mean you have to give it up whenever the other one wants it. No means NO in any situation. I am so sorry honey yes you were raped in every sense of the word. You could file charges if you wanted to.

It is considered rape and you could press charges.

Yep, if you said no and he didn't stop, it's rape. Any unwanted sex is rape. I'm sorry.

You can be raped my anyone, rape is where you do not want to be touched/have sex with someone and they force you into it


And in that case I dont really know if its rape. Did you really say no or did you say "NO" "STOP" and did you try to get away. I mean Ive told my DH no and that I didnt really want to but I dont see that as rape. Do you honestly feel as if you were raped?

Quoting Rette Mich:" You can be raped my anyone, rape is where you do not want to be touched/have sex with someone and they ... [snip!] ... mean Ive told my DH no and that I didnt really want to but I dont see that as rape. Do you honestly feel as if you were raped?"

i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe it. like different...empty. and afterwards i was in so much pain and was so upset he woudlnt stop...if it had been a stranger...yes i guess i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job"

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe ... [snip!] ... i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job""

Its is absolutely not your job to give him sex whenever. You need to talk to him about this. Do you feel safe around him? Is this the first time something like this has happened? Could of been a misunderstanding of some sort?

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe ... [snip!] ... i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job""

No it's not your job at all. You should not feel any type of obligation. He was wrong and really crossed the line. Have you expressed any of this with him?

the minute you say "no" sex should have stopped. Have you told him how it makes you feel as if you were raped instead of it being a regular sexual encounter?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe ... [snip!] ... i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job""</blockquote>



That is definitely not your job. Howeever part of his job is to respect you and he miserably failed at that.

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe ... [snip!] ... i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job""

It's never your job. No matter what if you say no or stop then it's rape, doesn't matter if he's your husband. Just because you are married doesn't mean you have to give it to him whenever or wherever, you still have the will power to say no and not want to.