re: can you be raped by your husband?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" he makes me have sex whenever he wants it. even when im sick with a fever of 103 and even when i just had a c-section ONE week ago."</blockquote>




I remember once getting burned with 265 degree pressurized water and having Burns on like 15-18% of my body and my skin peeling off and him still forcing me to have sex.  

They never get better. I promise. Just do whatever it takes to get the courage to get out as soon as you can.

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" he makes me have sex whenever he wants ... [snip!] ... to have sex.   They never get better. I promise. Just do whatever it takes to get the courage to get out as soon as you can."</blockquote>




I flipped my hair at my ex and rolled my eyes...

He grabbed my hair, dragged me, cutt a big ass chunk, my hair was in layers all the way to my waist, I had to cut it into a bobb because of how much and how close he cut it...
then burned me with my flat iron, idk what he was trying to do with it but I was moving so much and fighting he ended up burning my ass, on the part where ur ass cheek turns into ur leg, I had a 3rd degree burn which got infected it was soo nasty, I have like a 5 in scar still   they used to have to aire brush it out when I did shoots... I never knew how to explain what happened...

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... a 5 in scar still   they used to have to aire brush it out when I did shoots... I never knew how to explain what happened..."</blockquote>




I got lucky and had no scar even though he didn't allow me to have medical attention. Lots of plastic wrap, neosporin, vitamin e and collagen lotion.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" i have pondered on this for days....thinking and thinking and thinking. it felt ....idk how to describe ... [snip!] ... i would consider it rape. but it being my husband...i feel its my obligation to give it whenever wherever bc it's "my job""</blockquote>




Oh no it is not your "job" to be his sex toy   he absolutely violated you and I hope you file for the proper repercussions.

Seriously though, call the cops and report it as a rape and get an order of protection, it will give you time to pack up your smurf and get the hell out of there and it'll be on his record so in the future, other people might be able to avoid this piece of smurf

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" this past saturday morning i was sleeping on my stomach in just a t shirt and my husband yanked the covers ... [snip!] ... all day long but he just took it as a normal sex event.....is it possible to be raped by your husband? or even is this rape"

Yes it is. If you said no/stop and he didn't then that's rape. He might think otherwise because you're married, but just because you're married doesn't mean he can have it whenever he wants.

I can tell exactly what type of guy he is and you should get support and get out. My daughters father was a nasty piece of work (you love them, think of the 'good times' and stick with them) after having her and after enduring a couple of years of physical/emotional abuse, he hated how I never wanted sex. He would call me names and constantly try and pull my trousers down (even in front of my young kids) one night rings out in my mind when he kept touching me, this was a regular thing but I kept saying no. He got to the stage where he was trying to force his penis inside and I firmly told him if he goes one step further (fully entering me) he would be raping me and I would go to the police. At this point I obviously managed to turn him off by telling him to get his fat sm**rfing arse off of me, but at the same time kicked in his insane anger. I got a mouthful of abuse, calling me all the names under the sun and I STILL stuck with him. I was a teen mum, 2 kids and in the process of applying for uni. I had worked my ass off getting a good education and I was with this piece of smurf. I got out, luckily!!! Nobody deserves to be with someone who makes them feel unhappy or worthless or so damn scared you think they really would kill you, if 'you' pushed them to far (because in their eyes it's always you to blame, not their psycho tendencies!) get out before it gets to far. I was a student midwife and have undertaken training in domestic abuse. It is well known that things start of small, people allow this to happen thinking it's a one off. It's not, these things usually escalate and on average a woman is assaulted 36 times before going to the police. Don't stand for it. Which believe me I know is all to easy to say when you aren't the one uprooting your life to gain a better one. Domestic abuse is not acceptable. Just because it is sexual abuse does not make it okay as you are his wife. It is your body, not his to have when he wants. What he did is classed as rape if he knew you didn't want to and still forced you. If you need support or to discuss things further please PM me x

This is so heartbreaking. I know how it feels to depend on a man and feel entitled to stay with him because you have children. Let me tell you, your husband is an abuser, and he is raping you. You can continue to tell yourself that you're his wife so in some sick twisted way he has a right, however you know better that's why you posted here. I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope youfind the straingth to report him and leave.

There are 2 things that are making me stay.

1.) i dred being back with my parents house because they have a lot going on with taking care of my grandfather who has dementia really bad but they would welcome me and both the kids if it came down to it. I just feel guilty. I'm almost 25 and I dont want to be a burden.

And 2.) that's REALLY eating at me - I'm terrified my kids wont get the care they need when the husband has visitation with them. He doesnt wake up at night when they cry. He screams, throws things blah blah blah. And it breaks my heart to know my kids would be here alone with him if he had his fits of rage with no one to comfort them or protect them. It makes me cry thinking about it...

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" There are 2 things that are making me stay. 1.) i dred being back with my parents house because they ... [snip!] ... alone with him if he had his fits of rage with no one to comfort them or protect them. It makes me cry thinking about it..."

thats why you need to start documenting the abuse or get some police records going. you can use them against him in court

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" There are 2 things that are making me stay. 1.) i dred being back with my parents house because they ... [snip!] ... alone with him if he had his fits of rage with no one to comfort them or protect them. It makes me cry thinking about it..."

Document everything. If he has a an abusive record the courts would most likely require supervised visitation. An order of protection would protect you and the children until the courts figured it out.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" There are 2 things that are making me stay. 1.) i dred being back with my parents house because they ... [snip!] ... alone with him if he had his fits of rage with no one to comfort them or protect them. It makes me cry thinking about it..."</blockquote>


Your parents would rather you be a "burden" (and I doubt they'll see it that way!) than be stuck in an abusive relationship.

And if you document the abuse now you can request supervised visitation later.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Document everything. If he has a an abusive record the courts would most likely require supervised visitation. ... [snip!] ... require supervised visitation. An order of protection would protect you and the children until the courts figured it out."</blockquote>




   

They will never give someone with a history of abuse unsupervised visits!

And it is better to be a "burden" on your parents to have you and your children SAFE then live with that, even smurf is too kind a word!

Your Parents will NO consider you a burden, that's how you may perceive it... But you will not be. If you found out one of your children had been treated the same way you have, you would want them safe with you, that is exactly the same for your mother and father.

Secondly he should only have supervised contact with the children if you fear he is not capable of meeting there needs and/or becoming angry/abusive in from of them.

You also need to think about how your children are growing up in an environment like yours. That was another "I have to go out" thing for me. My son called me a dirty dog after hearing my ex say it to me and it broke my heart hearing such vile things coming out of his mouth whilst he was so young and innocent (3 at most). They pick up on things and even if you think it's behind closed doors, eventually they will notice, or it won't be as contained as it may be now.

I really hope you have friends/family to discuss this with who may offer help. This helped me, even though I didn't listen to what they advised me for a long time.