re: can you be raped by your husband?

A rape kit in this case would've easily shown nonconsent considering he just climbed on top and did his thing. It would leave tiny tears and abrasions, that is why she hurt all day.

And I just saw the take it thing, NO. SmUrf.THAT. He obviously has some sick smurfing rape fantasies he is forcing on to you and that is NOT ok. You need to get the hell out of there ASAP and let people know you are close to what is happening. NOT NOT NOT OK EVER!

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" he makes me have sex whenever he wants it. even when im sick with a fever of 103 and even when i just had a c-section ONE week ago."

Omg. Please leave him. You deserve so much better mama.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" he's done this numerous times before. he would stay up late til 4am and play playstation the come to bed and climb on top when im sleeping telling me to "take it""</blockquote>




As a person who has been through what you have, yes it is most definitely rape! If he's willing to do that, I'm pretty sure other abuse is happening. It's never something you are obligated to do married or not. But please seriously consider your situation and leave if you feel he is harming you. It may be hard and may seem impossible, but after you get out and are able to heal a little the world will be a much better place for you. And hopefully you can be fortunate enough to find a man who will respect you.

thanks ladies for your advice. you have no idea how good it feels to get this off my chest. i havent been sleeping much at night bc i cant stand sleeping next to him with everything going on. i usually wait til he goes to work and sneak a 3hr nap before the kids wake lol. thanks again ladies. you all and this site has been my anchor (not sure if thats the right word but its nearly 3am my brain is on fumes)

Quoting Just a Mama of 2:" thanks ladies for your advice. you have no idea how good it feels to get this off my chest. i havent ... [snip!] ... ladies. you all and this site has been my anchor (not sure if thats the right word but its nearly 3am my brain is on fumes)"

Please get help for you and your children. I grew up in an abusive household and have seen how hard it is to leave. My mother never had the strength until he went to prison. If you dont have friends and family that can help you please find a shelter that can. It may not be ideal but its better than living in fear.

Quoting Jennybananna:" All I can tell you to do is leave. It is rape and he sounds abusive in many ways. Call the cops report the rape and just leave and never look back. Get an order of protection and rebuild your life."

    

I agree with everything she said, but definitely get an order of protection because a guy like that isn't going to be happy with a no and this way if he even comes near you he can go to jail!!! You need to leave for the sake of your kids...they know when Mama isn't happy. Good luck

And ONE week after a csection??? INSANE!!!

Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:"      I agree with everything she said, but definitely get an order of protection because a ... [snip!] ... to leave for the sake of your kids...they know when Mama isn't happy. Good luck And ONE week after a csection??? INSANE!!!"

 
Seriously! What a disrespectful smurfing piece of smurf!

Ugh. I hope you don't stay with him. What a sick smurf.

I had to go back and look at your topics because I thought I read your post last week about the car situation. Your husband sounds like a controlling pos. it absolutely is not your responsibility to just have sex with him because he wants it.

My advice: leave... ASAP!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just a Mama of 2:</b>" he makes me have sex whenever he wants it. even when im sick with a fever of 103 and even when i just had a c-section ONE week ago."</blockquote>


  no no no.

Not acceptable at all.

If you have someone to call, call now. Just get yourself and your kids out of that situation. He sounds like a ticking time bomb.

I went and looked at your other threads too. I hope you take us seriously and leave. He's sexually & financially abusing you for sure from what I've read and it will only get worse! PLEASE get out now!!! Leave while he's sleeping so you can take your car...waking up the kids to do this is minor compared to staying.

This makes me so sad  

Please leave... I have no idea what to say... what do u need to get out of there??

he could be raping other women in the area or could be learning how with you. he can even turn it onto your children i would get out~

Quoting I love Kenzi:" he could be raping other women in the area or could be learning how with you. he can even turn it onto your children i would get out~"

This also crossed my mind   I just wasn't sure I wanted to say it...

I am so sorry OP. That is never ok. Read some of your past posts and my advice is to get the hell out of there ASAP!